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I'd Rather Be Alone Than Unhappy

At least now I have more control and normalcy in my life. I don't have to wander if she'll be there when I get home (or where she might be). When she was there, I was alone anyway. I don't have to wander if there's food in the house or if I have clean clothes to wear(never expected of her). I can take care of myself. I don't have to worry if the bills will get paid this month, because the money is there now. I no longer have to pay stupid fines because she's irresponsible. I don't have to deal with all that drama, and what the day will bring this time. I could go on and on. We can't control everything that happens in everyday life, but it sure is a groovy feeling knowing I can be alone and be just fine.
noname12345 · 18-21, F
33 years of that for me... Divorce should be final soon. Told me almost-ex many times, I'd rather be broke and alone, than waste any more of my life on him. The loneliness does get to me at times, but, is much better than the never-ending daily hell.
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
I remember the hell she put you through. Disappearing for days at a time, pawning stuff that didn't belong to her, you and your son having to hide your money from her because she would take it. Crazy ass stuff.

I'm so happy that things are better now. That you have some peace in your life. You deserve it and so much more.

Do you realize we've been friends for about 7 years now? We've been through a lot, a shit ton of drama, laughter and tears. Oh and glitter. A lot of glitter too. ;)
dejagroove · 61-69, M
Heaven...you were the one that helped me realize that I didn't deserve or have to live like that. You helped me get off that not- so-merry-go-round......which opened my eyes and put me in a different groove. I am so thankful I had you in my life during that time (and to this day).
We sure did go thru many changes and tribulations in those 7 years, and I hope to share more love, laughter, and glitter with you! We're gonna keep the drama and tears on the lowdown as best we can buds!....lol. :)
dejagroove · 61-69, M
Then maybe you weren't quite ready. Just my thinking from past breakups. I was married for 36 years. The last 12 were hell. I stayed mostly for my son, but realized I didn't deserve the abuse. Being single can be lonely at times, but at least I'm not miserable everyday. You'll be okay...you're a young man!....enjoy what you enjoy doing coolman!
newgirl · 56-60, F
Me too. 22 years married, 31 years together and the last ten years were horrible.

I agree, it is better than being miserable and worrying everyday what is gonna happen today.
coolman86 · 36-40, M
i know what you mean but i just got out of a relationship and thought id like to be single and alone but i really miss her
newgirl · 56-60, F
I couldn't agree more. I lived that same scenario and am now much happier without him and his drama.
dejagroove · 61-69, M
Thanks sweetgirlygirl for acknowledging. These days....I ask myself why I let that happen.
dejagroove · 61-69, M
Exactly...I'm sorry newgirl. I look back and ask myself why I stuck in there so long. I think when you're with someone that long, ya just feel you have to change it, you know it's not right, would feel like I failed my marriage (a guilty feeling)..but you finally realize you can't change what can't be changed.
dejagroove · 61-69, M
Sorry to hear that on the mend. But yeah, bottom line is like you said...better than the everyday bullshit. And that's no way to live. You'll gain inner peace as time goes on...which will help mend that wounded bird. For me...I always feel and know that the loneliness is just a pit stop in my life. I feel too young to stop flying.
SW-User
Wow you went through alot!

 
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