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I Am Tired Of Being Abused And Disrespected

I don't know if I am experiencing emotional or physical abuse lately..?
I've been seeing a much older man than I for the past eighteen years now, and he has always treated me well- until the beginning of the year he has started verbally abusing me and doing stupid shit that I don't see this as normal. Hus been through a lot and so have I, but I find it hard to put into words as the stuff his been saying to me and doing to me...
It all started with him swearing at me and saying the most harshest things that broke my heart. I always just brushed it off and ignored him. Than he started smacking me on my head (real hard) or a smack behind my neck, which he said its nothing when I reacted to it... I don't know if I am over reacting? Or what he is doing is wrong? I honestly hate how he's treating me and I don't know what to do about it... I feel like I am hating him, really. He has gone as far as when I just ignore him while he's shouting & swearing at me - he'd kick me on my legs! Wow! that to me is so crazy and disrespectful! Please anybody who can gibe me an honest outside opinion on my situation I'd really appreciate it.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
You know that is abuse or you wouldn't be asking. It won't get any better until you put a stop to him mistreating you.
SW-User
Pack your bags and get the f*** out of there. Come on, you're smarter than that.🙄
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
He is being abusive. That you have 18 years invested means nothing if he is acting like a jackass. Seek counseling but it will only get worse if you tolerate it.
If he has not been this way through 18 yrs together and with his age .. early onset dimensia is highly possible. Early onset can begin even younger than 65. Have had Alzheimers in my family and I can tell you some of this is consistent with behaviors I saw that were highly uncharacteristic of my family members.

Get yourself safe and, if you care for him as you seem to, encourage him to seek medical assessment.
firefall · 61-69, M
OK, what he's doing is absolutely wrong and you should not put up with it. Trying to find the underlying reason for the change has to be a high priority - I would either guess severe stress (from a job, or from coming to retire?) ... or dementia of some sort.
Fernie · F
@firefall LEAVING HIM is the high priority....saving herself is the highest priority
4meAndyou · F
I think you need to lose this abusive loser as quickly as possible. If you talk yourself into continuing your relationship, then you are talking yourself into allowing someone to ruin your life. After 18 years I am sure it will be difficult, but if you stay you will be permanently affected. You will be emotionally damaged in a way that doesn't really go away, you might become depressed and that might not go away. He also might "escalate", finding he enjoys his power over you so much that he will hurt you in worse and worse ways....physically. If you are looking forward to visits to the ER, to scars, both physical and emotional, and a case of PTSD and chronic depression, then stay with this creep.
SW-User
Get away.... now
melbeacher · 61-69, M
You should leave him. He should never hit you. You are not over reacting.
masterofyou · 70-79, M
Leave him ...... You don't need him in your life...

Parker007 · 41-45, F
Thank you for the beautiful flower...
masterofyou · 70-79, M
@Parker007 The pleasure is mine, you need love in your life not abuse..
He is abusing u and it will probably get worse.
LyricalOne · F
Of course you know.
Fernie · F
LEAVE!!!!!!!
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
Also. Hitting you on the head and kicking you in the legs is absolutely abuse.
SW-User
No one should ever hit you or yell at you for whatever reason. Get away from him.
Bobdale · 56-60, M
Dontt put up with that behavior ...will only get worse ....u can change ur life .
SW-User
He should not hit you regardless of age or mind set... time to move on
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
Wait. You say he is much older. How old is he now? I ask because this could be the beginning stages of dementia or Alzheimers...very distinct symptoms are the behavior...they can become unusually mean.
Parker007 · 41-45, F
He is 65 years old... I don't think dementia or Alzheimer's can be the case..?
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@Parker007 It absolutely CAN be the case. You say he never acted like this before. SOMETHING has caused the change.

That DOES NOT mean his behavior is OK. It means that MAYBE there is more to it.

It is clear though, that this is not good and you don't deserve this treatment.
Celt50 · 51-55, M
@JaggedLittlePill that's exactly I was thinking as I was reading her post, his behaviour resembles some of the early symptoms of dementia

 
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