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I Am Not Close With My Sibling

My brother and I don't see eye to eye on anything. He's the exact opposite of me. He likes partying, getting drunk and being the center of attention. I hate all three. And it's these that he uses against me the most. The reason why I won't drink alcohol is because I'm too "up tight", I don't like party's because I'm "boring and bland", I hate getting attention because I "hate people".
I'm just not a sociable person. And this is a hard subject for him to grasp. So much so that he goes out of his way to make me and my parents feel like crap because I don't like company. Saying that my parents "sheltered me too much" and that they "gave me too much free will".
He also seems to view me as a massive failure due to me choosing to study games development at college over web development. When he found out, in his exact words, he said to me "are you just trying to point out that you're a failure? Why don't you just quit college and do something better with your time?"
The last time. I spoke to him one on one, he said he honestly wished he had raised me himself so he didn't have to put up with who I am today. Part of this made me think he maybe cared about me, that he wants to see me succeed in something. Or maybe he's trying to cover for his own failings

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billytex1 · 70-79, M

First, it sounds like you've already got a pretty solid foundation of common sense and perception to work from - which is good, as you seem to perceive his issues as being his issues - not yours.

While sibling divisions can be difficult, next time he starts off on one of these running you down sessions, just tell him to go live his own life - your life is yours to live as you choose - and personally, from what I hear, you've got more between your ears than he'll ever have in the common sense department.

Some people just aren't social animals that want all kinds of people around them - they choose just a few very close friends, that they're compatible with and very comfortable with - and that's just fine - I'm one of them.

While I definitely wouldn't stop caring about what happens to him - he is your brother, after all - that doesn't mean you have to put up with any crap he hurls your way.

Listen to you - be who you want to be - live the life you're comfortable with - after all it's your life, not his - and you being comfortable with you and confident in the path you've chosen is one of the greatest keys to being successful in life for the long term - those that choose things because they think they're 'what mom and dad want me to do' or 'will make me attractive to others' or other external reasons usually wind up pretty sad about their choices.

Good luck!!