I Am Not Close With My Sibling

First, it sounds like you've already got a pretty solid foundation of common sense and perception to work from - which is good, as you seem to perceive his issues as being his issues - not yours.

While sibling divisions can be difficult, next time he starts off on one of these running you down sessions, just tell him to go live his own life - your life is yours to live as you choose - and personally, from what I hear, you've got more between your ears than he'll ever have in the common sense department.

Some people just aren't social animals that want all kinds of people around them - they choose just a few very close friends, that they're compatible with and very comfortable with - and that's just fine - I'm one of them.

While I definitely wouldn't stop caring about what happens to him - he is your brother, after all - that doesn't mean you have to put up with any crap he hurls your way.

Listen to you - be who you want to be - live the life you're comfortable with - after all it's your life, not his - and you being comfortable with you and confident in the path you've chosen is one of the greatest keys to being successful in life for the long term - those that choose things because they think they're 'what mom and dad want me to do' or 'will make me attractive to others' or other external reasons usually wind up pretty sad about their choices.

Good luck!!

He is setting the ground for you, how other men will be to you later on.

1. Co-Workers
2. Father/mother in-law
3. CEO of a company
4. Bank Manager
5. Brother/sister in-law
6. Gym -outdoor activities groups

Your work life will be the next big stage in your life. When you work with a mix of people, you will comes across those with a HUGE EGO. If you are then used to how bad/good some men can be, you won't be so immune to bad attitudes and bad actions that your co-workers can behave towards you.

Till then work on your self-worth. The only one that will ever give you worth - is you.

You are the one to validate and complete you.

Your job is to have you be happy - then figure out how you will do this for you.

Quote for you:
No one is free who has not obtained the empire of himself. No man is free who cannot command himself.”
― Pythagoras

Well I hope things improve for you. I can identify not wanting to be a around people to be honest I don't think anyone wants to be near me either. Unlike you my oldest brother really loved me and cared a great deal for me. And Adopt me from our parents who didn't give a. Didn't care much for me to at all I guess they were to busy with my other siblings to ever want a aledged retard. But my Brother did. He saved me 😊

Your way of life is going to prove much better than his in the long run. Hang in there. Try to view your brother as a cable TV sit-com when he criticizes you. And tell him you admire him for being himself; and you plan to follow in his footsteps by being [i]yourself.[/i] The less you argue with him, and the less you're upset by him, the less he will pick on you.

I wouldnt want to be your brothers kid. Sounds tough

What you don't understand, is that your brother is telling you about 'himself'; he is not telling you what he thinks about you!

The reason he gets drunk is for the same reason that anyone else gets drunk or engages in substance abuse... they are hiding temporarily from a very real, sober reality that they cannot get a grip on for whatever reason. Getting drunk or stoned permits a temporary escape from their unfathomable reality.