I Just Had My First Fight With My Boyfriend
Just recently I was trying to make everyone happy, and it royally backfired on me with both my mum and my partner being angry/frustrated towards me. I brushed if off and apologized to the both of them. But I had this nagging feeling inside, now I've been with my partner for over 2 months now, and I know want to avoid fights, but sometimes they are good to have because of the experience, it's like test to see how you two can get through it together.
I then decided to talk to my mum, it was an interesting talk because she wouldn't fight me on anything, she'd just listened. I found out what the nagging feeling was, it was that fight that I had had with my partner and her. It was all because the changing of plans, and he was meant to pick me up, and when I told mum I was seeing him, she acted as if she didn't know that, now I had a very busy morning, so I was already a little stressed. So to avoid her from getting angry, I asked if she wanted to go to Salvos, completely forgetting that he was coming to my house. In the end I was trying to contact him, i messaged him and at one point his response was "don't bother, I'm eating lunch".
Messaging can be dangerous as you can never know how the person feels until they be more specific, so I was a little afraid.
When I took mum home, he was there and he took me to his house, now I know he was a little frustrated and sleepy from work, but when we were sitting on the bed, I had just finished talking to mum on the phone, he said to me, "I don't understand", and I was like, "understand what? Mum, because she can be a little confusing", but he says, "no, you!" Okay, I know i get bamboozled a lot, but hearing that coming from my partner was a kick in the gut. I apologized to him as well because I just wanted it to be over and done with, but I still had the nagging feeling after.
So that talk I had with mum was an eye opener, it was great that I spoke to her because I also received helpful advice.
One day he was picking me up, and I had called him to confirm, but I was sounding a little off that day, even he could hear it, and I ended up crying. So that night when I say down with him on the couch at his, I poured my soul out, I was angry, frustrated and upset, telling him about what I was trying to do that day, only to have shit thrown back at me because no one was impressed with me, I told him about the way he spoke to me wasn't very nice, but I understood he was frustrated.
So much had happened that night, and I was glad he was there to listen, because he knew what had happened wasn't right, instead of working with me, he and my mother, worked against me. But We learned, we grew through the situation, and we love each other even more. Just yesterday, I was talking to him about his grandfathers funeral, and mum had asked me to ask him if I could come, but I didn't like that idea one bit, I means, yes, I would pay my respect, but I have't met the family, and I certainly don't want to meet them through that! explained also, that I'm not his family, so I shouldn't be there.
Then his response was absolutely beautiful, he said to me, "well... Hopefully later down the track, you will be family", if i spoke to anyone about this face to face, I would become teary eyed. We both agreed that we've gotten a little closer as well because of it. I really think we can make it last.
I then decided to talk to my mum, it was an interesting talk because she wouldn't fight me on anything, she'd just listened. I found out what the nagging feeling was, it was that fight that I had had with my partner and her. It was all because the changing of plans, and he was meant to pick me up, and when I told mum I was seeing him, she acted as if she didn't know that, now I had a very busy morning, so I was already a little stressed. So to avoid her from getting angry, I asked if she wanted to go to Salvos, completely forgetting that he was coming to my house. In the end I was trying to contact him, i messaged him and at one point his response was "don't bother, I'm eating lunch".
Messaging can be dangerous as you can never know how the person feels until they be more specific, so I was a little afraid.
When I took mum home, he was there and he took me to his house, now I know he was a little frustrated and sleepy from work, but when we were sitting on the bed, I had just finished talking to mum on the phone, he said to me, "I don't understand", and I was like, "understand what? Mum, because she can be a little confusing", but he says, "no, you!" Okay, I know i get bamboozled a lot, but hearing that coming from my partner was a kick in the gut. I apologized to him as well because I just wanted it to be over and done with, but I still had the nagging feeling after.
So that talk I had with mum was an eye opener, it was great that I spoke to her because I also received helpful advice.
One day he was picking me up, and I had called him to confirm, but I was sounding a little off that day, even he could hear it, and I ended up crying. So that night when I say down with him on the couch at his, I poured my soul out, I was angry, frustrated and upset, telling him about what I was trying to do that day, only to have shit thrown back at me because no one was impressed with me, I told him about the way he spoke to me wasn't very nice, but I understood he was frustrated.
So much had happened that night, and I was glad he was there to listen, because he knew what had happened wasn't right, instead of working with me, he and my mother, worked against me. But We learned, we grew through the situation, and we love each other even more. Just yesterday, I was talking to him about his grandfathers funeral, and mum had asked me to ask him if I could come, but I didn't like that idea one bit, I means, yes, I would pay my respect, but I have't met the family, and I certainly don't want to meet them through that! explained also, that I'm not his family, so I shouldn't be there.
Then his response was absolutely beautiful, he said to me, "well... Hopefully later down the track, you will be family", if i spoke to anyone about this face to face, I would become teary eyed. We both agreed that we've gotten a little closer as well because of it. I really think we can make it last.
26-30, F
