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A Disappointing Reunion

Earlier tonight, I saw a friend (just a friend, not an ex gf) who I haven't seen in a fairly long time. I went through a good amount of trouble to make the night enjoyable. I cleaned up my apartment and spent a decent amount of money on some nicer-than-usual quality food to make.

At first the conversation was a little awkward, almost like neither of us knew where to start. I expected that. Catching up with someone isn't always easy, especially when you regret not keeping in touch with them. But then things got bad. She brought up a past issue that I clearly didn't want to discuss with her (or anyone really) and when I made that clear to her, she made it seem like it's my duty to let her take the conversation wherever she wants. The issue in question didn't even really affect her. All she had to do was let it go.

She was angry that I snapped at her after she repeatedly refused to change the subject. I admit that I got a little too testy, but she seemed to discount everything else that I did (the cooking, cleaning, etc.) to make the night a good one. I don't even really regret the time and money that I spent. I regret letting her back into my life just for tonight because it reminded me how you don't really ever know if you're still friends with people.

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karysma · 31-35, F

The thing is with time people change and so do their characters. This is the reason why I don't do friendship. I don't have the energy for it

justarandomwriter · 22-25, M

@karysma I feel that, but I try not to let myself get to that point. If you don't have energy for friendship, what do you have left?

CestManan · 46-50, F

@karysma Yeah but assuming the OP is 25 and this was a friend from high school, people don't change that much in seven years.

justarandomwriter · 22-25, M

@CestManan I'm surprised you think that. People can change a lot in seven years, especially in college and immediately thereafter. It's the most transformative time of your life in my opinion. But maybe I'm just young and naïve...

CestManan · 46-50, F

@justarandomwriter Well, you are not wrong about transformative. However, at that age, the world has not worn you down too much yet. One still likes to have fun, have friends, and all that.

It is true that it is fast paced with college, start a new job, and all but mentally one is still young enough to have friends.

It is hard to put into words what I am trying to say.

From my perspective though - my peers are older, more irritable, tired, cynical, married and domesticated into non-existence, burnt out, and all they want to do is relax when they are not trying to just make it.

karysma · 31-35, F

@justarandomwriter I have family. They are there through it all whereas friends leave you when you're down and that's the worst cause that's when you need all the support. I'm not even going to try making friends in my life I can't stomach it when they leave me out in the desert all alone if you know what I mean

CestManan · 46-50, F

@karysma My least favorite is when I am getting comfortable with the friendship and they talk about moving to another town. I always feel like, "Well i am glad I wasted my time with this situation."

karysma · 31-35, F

@CestManan My least favorite is when they give you one word answers when you text them. I'll be thinking [b][c=#800055]why not just block me if you don't wanna talk to me[/c][/b]

CestManan · 46-50, F

@karysma I do not know if people still do this but I think it should be a crime for people to text only "ok" UNLESS it is truly called for. Like, "See you there tomorrow" "ok".

But when you spill your soul and they give that lameo response, THAT calls for an ass whoppin.

karysma · 31-35, F

@CestManan [quote]But when you spill your soul and they give that lameo response, THAT calls for an ass whoppin.[/quote]

I know right 😂😂😂. People still do it trust me. Sometimes they be acting like they don't know you and at times they be acting like they don't wanna talk to you. It's the reason I keep my circle very small cause it can leave you thinking you did something wrong when you didn't