I Dont Understand Why People Think Domestic Abuse Is Ok

@Mamapolo2016 why people do that? 💔

I have a suspicion it's going to get worse again rather than better.

I have had possibly a dozen people here, most of them quite young, tell me "Just mind your own business," about similar things. Not all think that way, but many do. The more crowded the world gets, the more we look inward, to our own tiny sphere.

And, if you admit it's happening to somebody else, a small part of you understands it could happen to you.

@Sepia

There's even more to it than that - I was deeply involved with a women's domestic violence shelter for years.

If someone asks an abused person if they are being abused (I use 'person' because it happens to men, too), most often they will say, "I don't know what you're talking about."

Why? Because they're scared of the abuser. They are as scared of leaving as they are of staying. They are scared of the justice system. They have been convinced they deserve it. They have so little self left they can't imagine a life where nobody hits them and they can survive on their own. They have grown up in a community where it's normal and they don't even see it as anything but 'the way it is.'

More times than I could count, somebody here has reported domestic violence in a post, and when I talk to them in PMs, they want to talk about the abuse, but rarely about what to do about it, any more than I want to talk about alternatives to breathing. They can't conceive there's a different way.

It's tragic - and contrary to popular belief, although it is more common in some cultures than others, abuse happens everywhere. Wall Street brokers and unemployed mechanics can all be abusers. @Sepia

@Sepia I'm sure there are many cases.
One hears of this often - women afraid of repercussions,...

Abused women however does not equal people in general. They're a pretty narrow demographic.

@Budwick can you explain "narrow demographic"

@Sepia [quote]can you explain "narrow demographic"[/quote]

Sure!

The number of abused women afraid of repercussions
divided by the number of people

I don't know the actual numbers that would be plugged into this formula, but I'm guessing it's gonna be a small number. That small number is what I called a narrow demographic.

@Sepia
I know.
Some were not made to be wives and mothers.

@Pfuzylogic after having 4 kids..she just capable of giving birth.

@Sepia
She had her tubes tied.
I picked the wrong one I guess 🤷‍♂️

@Pherick I know some cases who does the abuse are the ones who conform to it.

@TexChik same here