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I Am Lonley

My ex husband of 15 years left our 4 kids and me 3 years ago. I have a pain illness that means I have to use a walking stick when I'm out. He spent years knocking my confidence telling me I was a "old ugly cripple who no one would ever want". Since then I've found it hard not to feel that he is/Was right. I feel like my illness defines me and that it will be the only thing people see. So I tend to lock myself away which compounds the feelings of isolation and loneliness.

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YoMomma ·

He's a douce; forget him. He's wrong on so many levels

Solitair · 51-55, F

@YoMomma thank you and your totally right he is a douche.

YoMomma ·

@Solitair sorry you had to listen to his nonsense ever 🙄 Some people

Solitair · 51-55, F

@YoMomma I think it was a way for him to keep me in my place. In loosing my confidence I rarely left the house and that made it easy for him to have an affair. He was then able to blame me for his actions by saying I was no longer the person he married. He had it all planned I think.

YoMomma ·

@Solitair i dont think he had it planed at all. I think he was just selfish and inconsiderate of you.. That's all.

Solitair · 51-55, F

@YoMomma you could be right after all to plan it would require thought. Although he is very good at manipulating people.

YoMomma ·

@Solitair sorry that you had to experience that . Thankfully i think most people are not like him. Its best to forget him and think nice thoughts instead of thinking more of him and how horrible he was/is.. Because such thoughts will just enhance your misery

Solitair · 51-55, F

@YoMomma Your completely right. It's been hard to move on and let things go. I get cross with myself for still being stuck in the past cause I feel after being on my own for nearly 3 years it's time I put it behind me. I don't talk to family or friends anymore as I know they feel I should have got over it by now.