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I Am Lonley

My ex husband of 15 years left our 4 kids and me 3 years ago. I have a pain illness that means I have to use a walking stick when I'm out. He spent years knocking my confidence telling me I was a "old ugly cripple who no one would ever want". Since then I've found it hard not to feel that he is/Was right. I feel like my illness defines me and that it will be the only thing people see. So I tend to lock myself away which compounds the feelings of isolation and loneliness.
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Itsjustme · 26-30, F
:( don't listen to him. It doesn't matter what is physically wrong with you. What matters is how to treat yourself and others. He sounds bitter. I know how it feels to have someone who is supposed to love you put you down. After a while you believe them. But now that he's gone you have to let yourself heal emotionally. Your soul is 1,000times more beautiful than anything he could imagine. Go out, enjoy life and don't let anyone tell you who you are. Not even an illness. You are YOU. Whoever you want to be. And as FABULOUS as anyone else.
Cheesecake · 61-69, M
@Itsjustme very well put 😀
Solitair · 51-55, F
@Itsjustme Thank you. Your right after years of being told your worthless, unlovable, unattractive etc you do start to believe it. It's going to take a while to move away from those thoughts and see them for what they truly were. One day I hope to be able to put it all in my past and be happy with myself again. I can't thanks you enough for your kind words and advice.
Solitair · 51-55, F
Thank you very much everyone for all your advice, support, kind words and shared experiences. Each and everyone of you has reminded me that I need to start making changes and stop allowing my past and an horrid ex dictate my future. Thank you you wonderful people.
Cheesecake · 61-69, M
@Solitair take your time and do it your way, for you. The very best of luck 😀