I Believe In Love Not Labels
There's some irony in this I guess, but... for me, this is a large reason why I've settled (more or less) on identifying as pansexual. As I explored my sexuality and even my gender, I found that labeling others felt too restrictive to me. Did my interest in transgender people or cross-dressers really fit neatly into the basic idea of bisexual? For me it didn't. There was just too much "in between" that I found attractive.
As to the irony... I think using a label for yourself is OK, as long as that label doesn't constrain you. I fell into that trap far too long, and it caused me to miss out on what could've been some really fun opportunities. So, what works for me is to worry much less about the "labels" that are used to identify others, and instead look at the person behind the label. Are they interesting? Fun to be around? Share kinks? Willing to explore? Appealing to look at? And so on.
Obviously, your mileage may differ and all that jazz...
As to the irony... I think using a label for yourself is OK, as long as that label doesn't constrain you. I fell into that trap far too long, and it caused me to miss out on what could've been some really fun opportunities. So, what works for me is to worry much less about the "labels" that are used to identify others, and instead look at the person behind the label. Are they interesting? Fun to be around? Share kinks? Willing to explore? Appealing to look at? And so on.
Obviously, your mileage may differ and all that jazz...
51-55, M
