I Know the Difference Between Lust and Love
What's the difference, really??? How can we really tell if we're in 'the love' or if it's just lust? (and I don't mean 'JUST LUST' as if to suggest that lust is somehow less than love, because I don't believe that)
But seriously, how do we know?
I've always known I love very easily. I fall in love easily. I do. Very easily. *blushes* I've loved many men in my lifetime, and I'm not ashamed of that. It comes very easily to me. I have always believed that it was just in my nature....that I'm the softhearted, giving, nurturing type, so of course it made sense that I would love generously too. Right?
Recently, I've been seeing a lot written and hearing a lot spoken of the difference between love and lust, and it's causing me to wonder......
Is it possible that I've actually been experiencing lust all these years, never having had true love? Is that even possible???
Could lust maintain a long term relationship? Could lust convince me, (a reasonable, intelligent woman) that my relationships, and even a 20 year marriage, along with all the bullshit, the lies, the troubles, heartaches, the inlaws, the kids, the fights, through ALL OF THAT, could lust convince me it was actually the real deal???? Could I have been so naive, so desperate for love, so needy, so....so.....so damn lonely that I'd believe lust was something more????
I don't know. I simply don't know if I believe it.
Really, the only thing I know for sure is this....it doesn't matter.
It really doesn't matter if it was lust or love I was feeling all those times. Love or lust, real or imagined, true or fake....it doesn't matter.
Because....I......FELT......IT.....
And I believe that is better than not feeling anything.
So what IS the difference? I know you'll likely have your own opinions on this, but just humour me here.
Think about it. How do people describe 'being in love'?
'You can't stop thinking about the person'
(Same goes for lust)
'You can't eat or sleep anymore'
(Ditto for lust)
'You get flooded with emotion, so full you feel like you'll burst'
(Yup. Again, same thing)
'Love can make you do crazy things'
(Mmhmm.....don't I know it)
'You dream of the person'
( ahem.....haha....wet dreams??? That's lust)
'Your heart constricts at the sight of them, or the sound of their voice'
(Lust does this too....just listen to your man's throaty growl, or listen to the sounds your wife makes as she orgasms....tell me your heart doesn't squeeze just a bit)
Cher said 'If you wanna know, if he loves you so, It's in his kiss'
'The magic of love is found in a kiss'
(Ummm, hello???? Lust???)
'Love has the ability to totally consume you, your thoughts, your dreams'
(Yep....so does lust!)
'True love can't be forced, it just grows'
(Same with lust. You can't force that, either the chemistry is there or it's not...and from a good base lust grows true intimacy, which some say is the basis for true love)
'There are no words, you JUST KNOW'
(I have been rendered utterly speechless by lust many many times and I KNEW it was good, and right, and it needed no definition)
The online dictionary says this about love:
1. A strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person, as that arising from kinship or close friendship.
2. A strong feeling of affection and concern for another person accompanied by sexual attraction.
Hmmm....sounds much like lust to me.
So after all my late night (and I think, mostly coherent) rambling tonight, I guess I still maintain, it simply doesn't matter. If all of those feelings and emotions I thought were 'love' in my life were actually 'lust' well then, bring it on. I don't want to give it up. I refuse to live a life devoid of either, just to hold out for the one that has thus far eluded me.
And really, how terrible would it be to live a life filled with lust and sex????? Especially if one believes they're IN THE LOVE????
*grins*
But seriously, how do we know?
I've always known I love very easily. I fall in love easily. I do. Very easily. *blushes* I've loved many men in my lifetime, and I'm not ashamed of that. It comes very easily to me. I have always believed that it was just in my nature....that I'm the softhearted, giving, nurturing type, so of course it made sense that I would love generously too. Right?
Recently, I've been seeing a lot written and hearing a lot spoken of the difference between love and lust, and it's causing me to wonder......
Is it possible that I've actually been experiencing lust all these years, never having had true love? Is that even possible???
Could lust maintain a long term relationship? Could lust convince me, (a reasonable, intelligent woman) that my relationships, and even a 20 year marriage, along with all the bullshit, the lies, the troubles, heartaches, the inlaws, the kids, the fights, through ALL OF THAT, could lust convince me it was actually the real deal???? Could I have been so naive, so desperate for love, so needy, so....so.....so damn lonely that I'd believe lust was something more????
I don't know. I simply don't know if I believe it.
Really, the only thing I know for sure is this....it doesn't matter.
It really doesn't matter if it was lust or love I was feeling all those times. Love or lust, real or imagined, true or fake....it doesn't matter.
Because....I......FELT......IT.....
And I believe that is better than not feeling anything.
So what IS the difference? I know you'll likely have your own opinions on this, but just humour me here.
Think about it. How do people describe 'being in love'?
'You can't stop thinking about the person'
(Same goes for lust)
'You can't eat or sleep anymore'
(Ditto for lust)
'You get flooded with emotion, so full you feel like you'll burst'
(Yup. Again, same thing)
'Love can make you do crazy things'
(Mmhmm.....don't I know it)
'You dream of the person'
( ahem.....haha....wet dreams??? That's lust)
'Your heart constricts at the sight of them, or the sound of their voice'
(Lust does this too....just listen to your man's throaty growl, or listen to the sounds your wife makes as she orgasms....tell me your heart doesn't squeeze just a bit)
Cher said 'If you wanna know, if he loves you so, It's in his kiss'
'The magic of love is found in a kiss'
(Ummm, hello???? Lust???)
'Love has the ability to totally consume you, your thoughts, your dreams'
(Yep....so does lust!)
'True love can't be forced, it just grows'
(Same with lust. You can't force that, either the chemistry is there or it's not...and from a good base lust grows true intimacy, which some say is the basis for true love)
'There are no words, you JUST KNOW'
(I have been rendered utterly speechless by lust many many times and I KNEW it was good, and right, and it needed no definition)
The online dictionary says this about love:
1. A strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person, as that arising from kinship or close friendship.
2. A strong feeling of affection and concern for another person accompanied by sexual attraction.
Hmmm....sounds much like lust to me.
So after all my late night (and I think, mostly coherent) rambling tonight, I guess I still maintain, it simply doesn't matter. If all of those feelings and emotions I thought were 'love' in my life were actually 'lust' well then, bring it on. I don't want to give it up. I refuse to live a life devoid of either, just to hold out for the one that has thus far eluded me.
And really, how terrible would it be to live a life filled with lust and sex????? Especially if one believes they're IN THE LOVE????
*grins*
