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Do you feel comfortable complimenting a girl while she is working?

Whenever I’m in work and a man compliments me(it’s not 24/7 I don’t love myself) I can’t help but feel a bit uncomfortable about it... it’s my professional environment and to be called “a good looking girl” to my face just takes me back a bit.
I dunno, can anyone relate with this so I don’t feel weird for receiving compliments lol
Mindful · 56-60, F
Maybe you’re more striking than other women at work? Most men these days keep those thought to themselves thanks to training.

If you don’t like the compliment or don’t find him to your liking, say zero in response to it or else he will think you are encouraging him. Whatever you do —don’t smile! Answer with business response or the topic at hand. If he says it again you need to tell him it’s inaapropriate and you would prefer to focus on work. Write it down on your calendar and document what was said and how you responded. each incident. If he stops, let it go. Some men think women are eager or desperate for compliments. A polite reminder should do the trick.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
I am not good with responding to compliments ,
But I know lots of ladies who say they miss seeing me when I don't come around for a while ,
I tell them how nice they look and its good to see them too
But they also know I am not a creep and I am sincere
I try to be pleasant to everyone ,,especially to people that are always kind and make me feel welcome
I hate speaking to someone and they act like I have 2 heads
But I get in the world we live in now hearts have gotten colder and colder
Does not mean I have to be that way ,,,I refuse to let the lack of personality of others change me
My Grandma taught me to be polite ,,even to ass holes
blessedJess · 26-30, F
@rckt148 ok but that is to ladies you are familiar with I’m assuming? You don’t go up to random women and tell them how nice they look? In my experience it’s either a coworker I’m not familiar with or complete strangers who I have never met before tell me how “nice I look today” which takes me off guard when I’m asking them for their debit card..
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@blessedJess actually I do sometimes compliment strangers too
I am not a nit whit ,,I know it has to seem appropriate ,
Like something she is wearing ,she would not be wearing it if she was not hoping someone would compliment it
Like someone wearing the bluest contacts ,no eyes are really that blue
Why would she wear them if she was not hoping someone would notice ?
a necklace ,broach ,elderly ladies like hats ,,,they want someone to notice
I do ,,but my compliment is not all pervy either

I am basically a shy person ,,that is how I deal with it ,,,
Back in the day ,greeting people with a hug was normal too
Times have changed for sure
people get freaked out over someone just telling you that you look nice today ,
Those ladies that look forward to seeing me ,and the compliments
acted like statues until I broke the ice ,,they were strangers

My job used to be "Skipper ,Kill you're engines and stand by for routine boarding " I was Coast Guard ,,,I am good at making people feel at ease
Show me your papers and equipment ,,lets make this easy as possible
I am not stopping you to hassle you ,,this is just to make sure you have the required equipment to make your boating as safe and pleasant as possible ,,
Unlike a cop ,,I did not need a reason to stop you
but I was good at making it less stressful ,, unless you didn't have the required equipment ,or something to hide
Its just something that good to know how to do dealing with the public

and its not easy for me still ,and I used to also be an entertainer
I have to overcome not feeling so comfortable in certain situations too
So I break the ice
Elegy · 46-50
No never, my point of view has always been" who the fuck wants to get hit on or inappropriately complemented when all they want to do is get a day's work out of the way"
morrgin · F
I believe compliments at work should only be given if it pertains to ones job performance.
SW-User
Learn to just ignore it. People get complimented. It's not a big deal.
PoizonApple · 41-45, F
That's called harassment
Steve42 · 56-60, M
That's sexual harassment.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
NO thanks, you can thank the left wing nutters, the political correct people, as you as you say you look smart today, it is called sexual harassment
Wetnsquishy · 41-45, M
If someone told me I was hot I'd be taken aback and view it with suspicion and contempt too, but in your case, since I just replied to your other post, you honestly are REALLY attractive, dont feel awkward, embrace the adulation, though dont get up yourself either, stay grounded, just have some faith in those compliments!
That said, to be verbally 'patted on the bum' is not the way today...
I personally would not say such a thing face to face, as it is patronising, but some just don't get it.
occaisionally - "hey, nice haircut" and leave it at that.

other than that, it gets a little dicey
5thApprentice · 31-35, M
Depends on the line of work. If she's a stripper it's not really that weird.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
That is inappropriate.
SW-User
It’s not very appropriate regardless but if you’re uncomfortable with it then there’s your valid feeling about it
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
A bit inappropriate.
I mean if you were to say the same to certain customers....
iamnikki · 31-35, F
I don't like compliments either. I've never been one to like attention.
WendyLopez43 · 26-30, F
Sorry, I can't really help you, I like it lol.
Nining · F
is sound like sexist comment, 😟

 
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