I Am Poly
A very good presentation of why polyamory suits some people (And others not).
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ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
Thank you for sharing this. I found it interesting. You know some of my story. I learned in a painful way it’s possible to love more than one person at the same time. Had he and I been able to be together, I don’t think I would have wanted anyone else. However, with my current situation, I’ve been thinking about and learning about polyamory lately, and this TEDtalk was helpful to me.
MrSquishy · 56-60, M
@ChampagneOnIce I am glad you found it interesting (I have more to share if you want). And I know that your situation, like the one I was in have forced us to reconsider the formats of relationships we have been fed as 'normal'. As I listen and discover conferences and reads on the subject of poly, I do find in it a lot that echoes with my own ethics and instincts regarding relationships. I agree it is not for everyone, and I think even monogamous people can benefit of a discussion on the choices they make. We are far too often afraid to discuss this and assume monogamy is the only option.
LightPinkLace · 56-60, C
This is a very interesting talk. He brings up a lot of valid points.
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MrSquishy · 56-60, M
@LightPinkLace I looked a little more at it. It seems they tried to approach the serious issues of poly but avoiding the discomfort it brings in most non poly people.
Packaging it as Two pretty ladies and one handsome guy showering together makes it more appealing to monogamous people. It is more like a longstanding 3 some...
But from what I could see it does touch on some serious aspects of those kind or relationships: Ground rules, who is with whom and when, how are decisions taken, communication, honesty etc...but I don't think I could sit through the whole show without cringing at the over simplified/sexualised image they give of poly relationships.
Packaging it as Two pretty ladies and one handsome guy showering together makes it more appealing to monogamous people. It is more like a longstanding 3 some...
But from what I could see it does touch on some serious aspects of those kind or relationships: Ground rules, who is with whom and when, how are decisions taken, communication, honesty etc...but I don't think I could sit through the whole show without cringing at the over simplified/sexualised image they give of poly relationships.
LightPinkLace · 56-60, C
I don't know much about the poly lifestyle, but I didn't take it too seriously. I assumed the portrayal was mainly for ratings. @MrSquishy
diablesse · 56-60, F
There are several very interesting points.
diablesse · 56-60, F
The ones that should apply to all relationships, whether polyamorous or not. About honesty, and the importance of communication, about knowing what we truly want before getting into a relationship... and probably a few others I can't think of right now that will come to me later.