Why does it feel like I can never have enough space / privacy?

I notice that I'm constantly trying to escape people. I always want to be alone. And even after spendings days alone in my room, that's still not enough. The entire notion of having next door neighbors and people nearby ruins my idea of solitude. I want total and complete privacy.

Generally speaking, I'm a very lonely person. Aside from my parents, I don't interact with people that often, unless it's someone at work. And honestly, I do feel lonely; and yet I want to avoid people at the same time. It's like I can't win, socially speaking. My desire to be alone and isolated is so weird.

Why am I like this?

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Serenitree · F

You seem conflicted. You're very young, but you are employed so if you start saving now, you can start planning to purchase a property that is a little isolated, even if only a little way out of the city and with a lot of land around it. That way, you can have your solitude when you feel the need, but by not going too far away from a city, you can socialize whenever you feel the desire to do so. The best of two worlds. It will take a few years and some good financial planning, but it's doable.

I wish you luck. I hope you find the perfect balance you're looking for.

StrangeLife94 · 26-30, M

@Serenitree Thank you. That's exactly what I intend on doing.

Serenitree · F

@StrangeLife94 Oh, look at that. I'm psychic. 😅

Good luck in all you do.

StokedFox · 36-40, F

I'm the same. I'm 34 and I still don't know why. I just accept it, which isn't always easy because you don't want to always be alone but most of the time, it's too much to be around people.

If there was a way to have a friend to talk to but not feel pressured to be their everything, not feel responsible for their happiness... Just a friend who understands.

You're a lone wolf. Probably strong in character but people treat you like a toddler.

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StokedFox · 36-40, F

@StrangeLife94 have you ever had a toddler? Anyway, if that's all you get out of what I said, peace out.

StrangeLife94 · 26-30, M

@StokedFox Jeez, no offense. I just wanted to clarify my situation.

StrangeLife94 · 26-30, M

@StokedFox That's what I hate about communicating with people online. One little remark can be taken out of context. I honestly didn't mean anything bad by it.

Abbenthewarwolf · 18-21, M

Well Idk I don't really like being around anyone either. Or they don't want to be around me. Either way I'm alone except for my parents and k9 brother. That is it. No friends. Never had any. And people makes me nervous. So I don't like socializing. It very taxing and demanding. I can't do it.

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