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I Believe In Chemistry Between People

I have always find the psychology behind dating behaviour very interesting and for the last couple of months I have done quite a bit of reading and soul searching. I have been talking to many many people about the topic and am thinking of writing a paper on it.

I have concluded that It does not matter how long you correspond on email, text or phone and how strong the emotional attachment is the likelihood is higher than not that there may be no chemistry at all when you meet.

The people I have been talking to has been on and off dating for years now. I only talk to people that has been dating on and off for at least 3 years. As well as people that has never married. Their opinions support the current research out there - and everyone says the same thing . An in-person meeting is the KEY. You may spend hours and hours emailing messaging and talking on the phone, but when you meet in person there may be NO chemistry at all. Then all that time you spent messaging has been pure waste of your precious time as well as the other person's.

I guess my point is . If you like someone - meet them in person, look them in the eye - connect and see if the chemistry are there for both of you. Why waste time - just meet them.
McShay1978 · 41-45, M
Never thought of it that way. Thank you for doing your research. I haven't dated in over 7yrs but was thinking of online dating. maybe I wouldn't. Keep me updated on your paper
CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F
@McShay1978 i think online dating is okay to meet people . :) my personal experience and those of others all seem to conclude that it it best to try and schedule an in-person meeting immediately if there is mutual interest rather than back and forward messaging for too long. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule (like in all areas of life) Sociopaths and Psychopaths get their victims by hooking them emotionally making a mental connection ( a to good to be true connection). Good luck hope you find someone.
McShay1978 · 41-45, M
@CheerfullyCurious thank you for the advice. It's been a long time since I've been on a date. Not into the bar scene so thought dating site. It's nice to have someone like you to offer advice. You're awesome for doing that. If something good comes, I'll let you know and you can add to your research. Have a wonderful night if you are from the USA. If from across the pond. Good morning
CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F
@McShay1978 good night
chrisCA · M
Having spent time on dating sites, where it counts is when you actually meet someone.
CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F
I agree dating sites can be a tool to meet someone in person. @chrisCA
chrisCA · M
@CheerfullyCurious It is just another venue. Some people take them too serious.

 
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