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I Was Judged....

Actually, I've just realised; I'm in both extremes......

I had my first daughter when I was 15 and my second daughter when I was 44...

With my first, I obviously had to go to school as well as care for her. Tough time. Tough juggling everything and yet coming out with all my O Levels (Yep, I am [i]that[/i] old!). Parents would keep their children away from me...like you could [i]catch[/i] pregnancy!

...and people would just generally look down on me.

It felt pretty isolating, to be honest, but I came through the other end with a lovely daughter who's also a parent now herself.

Yes it's hard. Yes it's tough...but we do what we do and look after our child...and all we ask for is a little respect...oh, and if you can be nice and offer help then that'll be wonderful too.

☺️

Sammy Jo xx

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Sheer · F

[c=#666666]What was your experience of being 44 when having your second child? Were people judging you for that as well?[/c]

SammyJo · 51-55, F

@Sheer Well....It's kinda interesting. I'm in a lesbian marriage and, when we're together with our 6 year old, people look at us as an 'old' couple (I think), but when either of us are with our daughter separately, I know that in my case anyways, that people think that [i]i'm[/i] the grandmother!

..and you mention to them that you are indeed the parent and they physically pull away from you, pull a face and say something like [i]'Oh, I couldn't put up with the sleepless nights being older..'[/i], like all children are wailing and screaming all hours of the day and night! Lol !

People, eh?

SJD xx

Sheer · F

[c=#666666]@SammyJo Uh that sounds quite uncomfortable, but I expected that... sadly. Many people don’t like it when others do things out of “the norm” and those are boring people. I think it’s amazing that you were able to get pregnant in that age honestly. I hope to be capable of having children later in life, as now (I’m turning 29) is not a good time.[/c]

SammyJo · 51-55, F

@Sheer Ah, you have plenty of time, luv....

Y'know what? It is what it is. At my age - and I think it's down to age - you get used to and bored by all that rubbish! What used to annoy me just doesn't anymore...

People judge....and it's water off a duck's back...

😘

SJD xx

Sheer · F

[c=#666666]@SammyJo Yeah, you're absolutely right. :)[/c]