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I Feel Like I Have No Emotions

I'm on the brink of shutting down my emotions.
Its strange, this is the first time my mind has actually given me a conscious choice to feel or not to feel.
Usually, when anything becomes intense good or bad, I just shut off.
I'm thinking about shutting off the part of my mind that has crushes.
I really like this dude, but my mind hates him because I'm becoming closer to him.
I met this really cool guy last night and part of me says hes my new prospect and I can just abandon all feelings for dude.

I need to be wise. Even if having a crush hurts like this, I cant just hop off of it out of fear and then hop to the next cool guy. I will just end up in a never ending cycle of running away from emotional intimacy.

I just need to let it flow. If I like this new cool guy as well, than so be it. I need to remind myself I am not in danger of getting hurt right now.

I am such a hopeless romantic. Its as if my feelings never cease, but they are always dead.
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Tatsumi · 31-35, M
Good thought process. Most people tend to just stick to one and get stuck in it, rather than extrapolating.

Only thing you have to do is use a bit of caution. I really love this explanation of human relationships, someone recently told me about.

The hedgehog dilemma. A group of hedgehogs seek to move close to one another to share heat during cold weather. They must remain apart, however, as they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp spines. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur, for reasons they cannot avoid. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and weak relationships. With the hedgehog's dilemma, one is recommended to use moderation in affairs with others both because of self-interest, as well as out of consideration for others.

Of course, you could also take it a different way. Yes, focus on some degree of caution, but also get close enough to where you can form a satisfactory relationship.
Lazerspirit · 26-30, F
@Tatsumi I really like this thank you.