Which of these do you prefer a) sleeping alone or with someone b) waking up alone or with someone c) going to sleep alone or with someone d) livin

Do you travel together for business or separately? Any news on having children yet or still talking on it?

I like that. You share, but, if solitary, you spread out. LOL.

@Noahkahol: I was going to say you are divorced. But I didn't want to push you. Thanks for talking. I think you are a decent, loving, caring guy. I can tell this. Don't blame yourself for the divorce of your adult child. It is a sign of the times. And I prefer choices. As I have said, I was unhappy for decades. He was too. He just lacked the courage to be himself, the real him. I am happy now more than in my entire life. I don't regret it. I have an amazing son. And I know exactly the qualities in a man that I desire. Because I lived in a hell. Especially at the end when he became unraveled mentally and thought becoming physically abusive would change my mind and it would be acceptable. It wasn't. And then it got worse. I think many live in marriage unhappily for their whole lives. Divorce offers alternatives. But I also think that many may just drop in and out of marriage lightly. It is something that requires commitment, trust, hard work, and love, abiding love. Nice chatting with you. Do come again. I post poetry from my heart. Many men who say they do not like the taste of poetry actually like mine. It is food for thought.

I don't blame. I know why. I see marriage as a lifelong commitment that you can either make excuses for changing your mind about or accept the bed you made yourself an sleep in it. Happy comes and goes and comes and goes around and around. Married or not. I spent many years not having fun in my young adult life to be a responsible parent to a wife that who knows what fun she may have been having I will never find out about. Yet I knew that it was the right thing to do to stay and be a father to my kids. Maybe that was the only reason she stayed too. Who knows. I sure don't care anymore. All I cared was that if my kids got married that they tried as hard as they could to make it work. They sure won't now. Mom just walked away without even explaining herself. That's fuxd up. lol

Sign of the end, you mean. Without families figure survival rates to drop to zero somewhere along the way.

Have a nice day.

@Noahkahol: Thank you for your thoughts. I think many stay unhappily because of vows or duty or obligations. I stayed too long. I could have raised my son happily on my own. Would have been difficult, but certainly the best option for all of us. My son is happily committed to his partner of several years now. I doubt our marriage effected him to the extent I once thought. I was clear on telling him that one should try to fix problems; be honest; be truthful; live as one is; work together, etc. I don't think people who marry believe it will ever end-the love, the trust, the commitment, etc. I never did think that. But children soon learn if their parents don't love one another or if there is discord in the home. People may drive fast, drink, do drugs, have affairs, sink themselves into work to avoid home. I cannot speak for them and how they "live". I only speak from my own experience.
Referring to your part about your wife's maybe having affairs. The ex, I never completely trusted him. I was monogamous all those years. I talked about being attracted to other men as the ex wasn't into intimacy nor affectionate with me. For some time, I actually believed there was something wrong with me. But it was him. He couldn't accept who he was and what he wanted. I was able to communicate quite clearly. He brushed aside my inquiries of whether he was having affairs. But he never said yes or no. I think he was. Too many men chased him. Perhaps these men saw what I first saw in him and was attracted to years and years ago. I only know now that I trust my mate and he trusts me. And I keep our relationship open for those years of going without. And it is all good now. And I rarely step outside of my relationship for sex. I have intimacy. That is what is important. That and love.

And are you with someone now? I am curious..

@PoetryNEmotion: I am 😊
I usually go to sleep alone though because he stays up later.

Hey, sweetie! I am a cover hog too! LOL. Not purposely, though.

@PoetryNEmotion: that's what makes life interesting right?

@HowIMetYourMother: Yes. I have to say that you are quite a pleasant, intelligent man not like a couple of others your age here. Thank you for this! :)

@PoetryNEmotion: haha thank you :)

I feel that way too. If the other person is kind and loving and...you know. :)

But you have so many choices. Eventually you will find the man of your dreams. And you are happy too.

When I find the man of my dreams, obviously I will answer "with someone else" :p

I wouldn't know. My dogs lay in it too. I never get the whole dang bed!

Solitary or together?

@PoetryNEmotion: yes, either of those. I don't have experience with doing any of that together, so I can't say for sure. But it probably depends on who the other person is too.

@Pleswe: Good answer.