Which of these do you prefer a) sleeping alone or with someone b) waking up alone or with someone c) going to sleep alone or with someone d) livin

So do you PREFER sleeping alone to sleeping WITH someone? That is what I wish to know.

I have no aversion to any on the list. Therefore also no preference.

@Noahkahol: You sound a bit wishy-washy. But this is on-line. And you may just be easygoing as you have lived life as long as I have. Thanks for answering. Now may I ask have you been married before? I would hazard a guess of yes, at least once. Am I correct? And for a long period of time.

I have been married and experienced every kind of circumstances over the years with work shift changes etc. It's not wishy wash. And it's not easy going. Sleep is something that if I need it I know I'm going to have it. That's a function of need. Not want. It takes time to get used to but complaining never made anyone a better sleeper.

@Noahkahol: I was hasty with my words. I apologize. I recognize the value of sleep as I work shifts too. And, one more question, are you happily married? You seem like a real and honest man. Thank you.

@PoetryNEmotion: We were wed in 78. 34 yrs. Happy exept some days in 79 and 1998. I never stepped outside the marriage for anything. In 2012 I found myself suddenly and inexplicably, or so I thought since it was unthinkable to me that such a thing would recur after all that time. Alone and incommunicado without my lifelong friend, life partner wife.

Aug 2013 divorced. And I'm not exactly fine with that since it sets a precedent for my adult kids. One of them has already divorced. That's marriage today. Nobody respects the promise anymore.

@Noahkahol: I was going to say you are divorced. But I didn't want to push you. Thanks for talking. I think you are a decent, loving, caring guy. I can tell this. Don't blame yourself for the divorce of your adult child. It is a sign of the times. And I prefer choices. As I have said, I was unhappy for decades. He was too. He just lacked the courage to be himself, the real him. I am happy now more than in my entire life. I don't regret it. I have an amazing son. And I know exactly the qualities in a man that I desire. Because I lived in a hell. Especially at the end when he became unraveled mentally and thought becoming physically abusive would change my mind and it would be acceptable. It wasn't. And then it got worse. I think many live in marriage unhappily for their whole lives. Divorce offers alternatives. But I also think that many may just drop in and out of marriage lightly. It is something that requires commitment, trust, hard work, and love, abiding love. Nice chatting with you. Do come again. I post poetry from my heart. Many men who say they do not like the taste of poetry actually like mine. It is food for thought.

I don't blame. I know why. I see marriage as a lifelong commitment that you can either make excuses for changing your mind about or accept the bed you made yourself an sleep in it. Happy comes and goes and comes and goes around and around. Married or not. I spent many years not having fun in my young adult life to be a responsible parent to a wife that who knows what fun she may have been having I will never find out about. Yet I knew that it was the right thing to do to stay and be a father to my kids. Maybe that was the only reason she stayed too. Who knows. I sure don't care anymore. All I cared was that if my kids got married that they tried as hard as they could to make it work. They sure won't now. Mom just walked away without even explaining herself. That's fuxd up. lol

Sign of the end, you mean. Without families figure survival rates to drop to zero somewhere along the way.

Have a nice day.

@Noahkahol: Thank you for your thoughts. I think many stay unhappily because of vows or duty or obligations. I stayed too long. I could have raised my son happily on my own. Would have been difficult, but certainly the best option for all of us. My son is happily committed to his partner of several years now. I doubt our marriage effected him to the extent I once thought. I was clear on telling him that one should try to fix problems; be honest; be truthful; live as one is; work together, etc. I don't think people who marry believe it will ever end-the love, the trust, the commitment, etc. I never did think that. But children soon learn if their parents don't love one another or if there is discord in the home. People may drive fast, drink, do drugs, have affairs, sink themselves into work to avoid home. I cannot speak for them and how they "live". I only speak from my own experience.
Referring to your part about your wife's maybe having affairs. The ex, I never completely trusted him. I was monogamous all those years. I talked about being attracted to other men as the ex wasn't into intimacy nor affectionate with me. For some time, I actually believed there was something wrong with me. But it was him. He couldn't accept who he was and what he wanted. I was able to communicate quite clearly. He brushed aside my inquiries of whether he was having affairs. But he never said yes or no. I think he was. Too many men chased him. Perhaps these men saw what I first saw in him and was attracted to years and years ago. I only know now that I trust my mate and he trusts me. And I keep our relationship open for those years of going without. And it is all good now. And I rarely step outside of my relationship for sex. I have intimacy. That is what is important. That and love.