I feel awful emotionally wise

You are not wrong for scolding at your daughter like that. She's defiantly ungrateful at the fact that she has a roof over her head and yet acts like such a brat. She won't even clean? Are you kidding me? Give her the ultimatum, if she wants to live under your house she's gonna gave to clean, no questions asked. If she doesn't like it, drop her off to a homeless shelter. She needs to respect you, understand the value of having a good place to stay.
Me personally, I would never allow a boyfriend of my daughter to stay in my house. If they're grown enough to be in a relationship and have sex then they should be grown enough to get their own place.

I just told my son to go to school already before he makes his and my morning worse than it already it. It's like shut the fuck up...but in other words. They have to learn at 16 it's her responsibility to make sure her clothes are ready, not yours anymore. Get over it. My son told me many times he won't do this and that "for me" after getting tired of explaining that he doesn't do it FOR ME , it's his responsibility, I just started saying " then I won't pay for your internet " that works better. And when he starts yelling I yell OVER him that he can yell at his kids, not his mother. I'm tired of this shit man. You do have to show them YOU are in control, not them at 16. You can say " I did not mean to curse at you, but now that you are 16 your clothes are your responsibility" no apologising. " I have to go to work to pay for your things too, things that you want too. Not a robot". If you only saw the fits my son throws, that's insane. I throw his keyboard out of the window, only then he takes me seriously. Talking apologizing constantly letting them yell because they are 16....um nope, not happening

We are parents not friends ,
I took my belt to my middle one at 18 ,
I am supporting you ,taking you to school
leaving my job to pic you up so you don't have to ride the bus
any thing you need I supply ,and I help your friends who's parents are unable to ,,,,you have 1 chore each and I do everything else and work
and you are going to call me a liar at 5am ? ,,I didnt even think
I just snatched her up with one arm ,spanked her with the other
Her friends said "You are an adult now ,you can lock him up for that "
She said I respect my Dad and he was right ,I should have never called him a liar
My Grandson is 18 ,,6'4" he towers over his Mom and Step Dad
He gets out of his truck ,,Papaw ,you better tell him (speaking of his step dad ) I will kick his A** ,,
No son you will control that mouth and tell him you are sorry
But Papaw you ,,,I stick my finger up ,,,he knows to shut up
Tell him you are sorry ,and then do what you are told ,,I am sorry TJ
may I go now Papaw ? yes you may ,do what you were told
Last night I am over for supper ,,,Granddaughter 17 ,,asked was her homework done ,(she is on the phone with her boyfriend ) no I will do it later
Bring your phone and put it on the counter and get on your homework now
"NO ,,I will get to it later and you can't take my phone ,,she didn't know I was there ,,
I say Sister ,,phone on the counter ,,NOW ,,let me say goodbye <<NOW !!!
The phone goes on the counter ,,,,I ask sister ,,is your homework for our benefit or yours ? Mine Papaw ,so straighter that face ,bring your home work to the table and get on it now ,,Yes sir

The reason I have that respect is I believe in punishment ,her Mom hates to
Her Dad died when she was 3 ,,I am the closest thing she had to a Dad
My oldest 41 ,If I raise my finger signifying I want to speak
She shows me the respect to shut it up ,,,,I was a single Dad
I was not given the job to be their buddy ,,,,I was a parent
We did not have a democracy ,,I ran a dictatorship and I was the boss
Now I am reaping the rewards ,,,but none of them allow anyone else to boss them ,I am the only one that earned that kind of respect and I do not care who likes my methods ,,,when your family respects you like mine respects me
I will take your opinion under advisement
We have people come up to us in public and say it was a please to see how well behaved the young ones are ,,,no one likes eating out and a pack of wild animals is running wild ,,,but now days that how it is
In my home ,,if you have a kid that terrible at 2 ,,thats your fault

It was a mistake she is 16 simply apologise to her and let her knoww youve been stressed and didntmean to take it out on her.

Don't be too hard on yourself - no-one knows how to push buttons like teenagers.

My advice with teenagers is do-not-engage because they want the reaction.

As kids get older, it becomes important be willing to apologize to them. You don't need to apologize for taking a stand against her behavior, but for losing your cool. It is a chance for you to show her how you take responsibility for your actions. They know that us parents screw up. No reason to pretend we don't.

I'm so sorry that things happening this way. I know you love your daughter.

That’s a lot to read.

Does yelling at your child work? I’ve never seen a parent/child yell fight where it ended well for either parties.

Geez what a fucked up story

you aren't a terrible person for yelling at your daughter. working hard for your family, and having expectations isn't a crime. parents are human and get worn out - it's natural. bad parents don't try, don't care and don't feel guilty about it. you are not damaging your kids by yelling at them. for every time you have a bad time with your kids, there are 5-6 good times. i've done things i'm not proud of, and so do parents; and i do good things to make up for those bad things - it's about balance. life is messy - and when it gets hard being a parent is unbearable. stop beating yourself up, you are trying and you need to forgive yourself - and start over. having good times with your kids can be simple like a hug, or sharing a joke, or just a smile. you might yell at your daughter again, but that's ok.