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I feel awful emotionally wise

This morning. I had a yelling match with my 16 year old daughter and what I said I feel horrible... Is it the worst LG things no but never ever ever have I said this... I told her to shut the f*** up twice.
I was getting ready for work and letting puppies out beforehand and she was telling me she didn't have anything to wear cause her clothes are in the dryer soaking wet. And while I was like well maybe you should get these things done sooner so that it's taken care of the night before and she got an attitude with me right now I forgot what she said but I told her she needs to quit with the attitude... The other day she told me she wasn't gonna ever help with the house cleaning... And this morning she says this house is disgusting and that's when I told her to shut the f up... It was just a yelling match.
I am having a very difficult time with stuff because of extra people got rid of one roommate end of August then now my niece her 2 kids and her boyfriend are staying with us til prob first of December. I know everyone is sick of how it is at the house even me. I am trying to hang in there with more patience cause it will finally happen when my niece is gone.. I love my niece and it doesn't have to do with not loving her but just want my house to myself and kids so the flooring can get put down we been walking on the o whatchamacallit call it subfkooring baseboards whatever no carpet no hardwood or laminateflooring in living room for 3 years due to no respect from others who stayed with us as to why carpet had to get tore up or outta there.. I had extra people for 4 years... And dealt with that crackhead for 2.5 years and he has been gone and thongs mellowed out some but the disrespect was there in other ways. There's more work to be done as well but that's where she is coming from
Anyways it has depressed me also and I am sure she is sick of it too. However for her not to start laundry earlier so it was ready is something she does often and she gets a real bad attitude when I say get it done sooner. i feel like shit cause I went off on her... But so my people make me feel shitty every day or everyday I think of how every time I turn around someone makes me feel worthless and I guess it bothers me everyday and I get where it angers me so much and something like this happens.. Hi feel totally worthless and no good f me its not OK I never said stfu to any of my kids ever ever ever
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SW-User
I just told my son to go to school already before he makes his and my morning worse than it already it. It's like shut the fuck up...but in other words. They have to learn at 16 it's her responsibility to make sure her clothes are ready, not yours anymore. Get over it. My son told me many times he won't do this and that "for me" after getting tired of explaining that he doesn't do it FOR ME , it's his responsibility, I just started saying " then I won't pay for your internet " that works better. And when he starts yelling I yell OVER him that he can yell at his kids, not his mother. I'm tired of this shit man. You do have to show them YOU are in control, not them at 16. You can say " I did not mean to curse at you, but now that you are 16 your clothes are your responsibility" no apologising. " I have to go to work to pay for your things too, things that you want too. Not a robot". If you only saw the fits my son throws, that's insane. I throw his keyboard out of the window, only then he takes me seriously. Talking apologizing constantly letting them yell because they are 16....um nope, not happening
michgirl75 · 46-50, F
@SW-User I understand what your saying.. I guess the guilt is more the cursing toward me kids... I am guilty of swearing when i talk and they ate around or talking to them bit never at them. And there's the yelling in itself. But makes sense what you said.
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@michgirl75 explain to her that you did not mean it and also explain YOUR OWN feeling too 50/50. To come to a compromise, that she understands you too. Just apologizing and walking away will give her wrong idea. I did this million times. At 16 they already need to take responsibility of understanding you too. Not only her being understood just because she is 16. Don't go only one way.