Love husband, but not attracted to him anymore

So, husband and I have been together for 6 years.. we just had a baby 4 months ago.. moved into a great house. I work a ton, he works Aton. We are both successful, good looking people. He’s smart, good looking, musically inclined, funny etc.. but I am starting to no longer feel attracted to him because of one thing. Lack.Of.Affection..I’m back to my old body post pregnancy , I make all the moves first, I’ve tried not making ANY moves to tease him, I don’t nag, I pay for at least half of everything, I try to flirt, dress up everyday etc.. he never makes a move on me, or shows me any sort of affection. In fact, he is quite mean sometimes in the way he talks to me.. I’ve called him out a few times so it’s not like this is a mystery.. but. It’s starting to get so bad this lack of affection thing, that on the rare occasion when we do do it, I’m no longer even turned on. I can’t get past all of the crazy stressful things we’ve been through, and like I said the fact that he can’t show any affection or desire towards me..I’m resentful of him. And he seems resentful of me. I don’t want to divorce him because truthfully before all this family stuff happened he was the absolute hands down, most amazing love of my life.. what do I do? Did anyone have this happen and it got better? What did you do?

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katielass · F Best Comment

Listen, I've been married for 42 years. You both will go through periods where things seem weird, different, over even but if you give up and start consciously moving apart it will be the end. More than likely what you need is time to allow this phenomenon to pass. I can tell you I;ve awakened several times over the years wondering WTF I'm with this guy for. Fortunately, the first time I was terrified and spoke to my mother about it. she said don't do or say anything, just wait, it will pass. And she was right, it did. That made it much less scary the next time it happened. And by keeping my mouth shut I didn't have anything to explain. And one day you just look at him and think yeah, I still love him. And you laugh to yourself and think thank god I kept my mouth shut.

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@katielass best answer. Thank you so much for telling me that. I want to believe it’s phase. Will give it some more time. Thanks so so much for sharing

katielass · F

@Brassm0nk3y I hope it is just a phase but you are better off assuming, for right now at least, that it's just a phase. this might help. Before you talk to him, try to remember how you felt when you said I do. Or if it helps to think of another time that feels special to you and you had no doubt as to your love for him, think about that and I think it will help you. Good luck sweetie.

katielass · F

Thanks for BA.