Anybody else’s in laws just invite themselves over without warning?

I was young and thought everybody, especially me, was immortal. They’re not. I would still use it if it was legal and I was stationary.

@Mamapolo2016 I hear you. We are truly a lot more fragile than we think. Better enjoy life while you can ya know :)

@Brassm0nk3y Lord knows I am trying!

So true. Thank you@dragonfly46

@Brassm0nk3y You're welcome. Congratulations on the new baby. Stressful times, just do you and your precious baby.

Aw thank you. I will remember that. :)@dragonfly46

@outsidethebox18 not a bad idea. Yeah it’s so weird.. him and his parents don’t communicate hardly at all. They are all SO passive aggressive. Might be worth seeing if he’d say something though. Thanks!

@Brassm0nk3y my love, it is his duty! You are now his new family. I say this out of love for you and him. It is not my intention to create tension between the two of you if he is resistant.

But my humble advice would be this: 1) always be in good light with your in laws 2) where there are difficult conversation, it should be led by the other half who is directly related to the in laws 3) only stand your ground once your other half has on 1-2 occasions spoke up for you (public or private).

I know it’s challeneging at times in practice but I don’t think you need a situation where your in laws start to resent you etc. If they don’t know their boundaries your husband should enforce them first before you do. After all you are one. If he handles this firmly and with love it will be good. Tell him to speak to his father who will speak to his mother.

If all fails, get the big guns out (your mum or pray about it). If you opt for your mum, maybe she can do a random “calling to see how you are” call and say “oh have you seen the kids.... well I’ve decide to give them space. I know they have had a lot of unannounced visits for family and you know how it is when you have a newborn.... you don’t need that. So I call before coming and help where I can... I think they need space now more than anything”.