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Do you look for this in your partner?

I often talk to my Nan and granddad about there 55year long marriage.
I ask them how they've managed to last this long.
And they both say it's simple. 1 they love each other but they also respect one another and they are each other best friends.
I asked they how they identified that in each other when they were younger and they said they didn't.
They met and was attracted, my grandad said he knew my Nan was the one but needed love whereas my Nan said my grandad was kind. Early on they saw they both had something the other didn't and taught each other those things and over the years continued doing that, my grandad sucked with money so he gave his pay check to his wife and she budgeted, and they always had.
My Nan due to bad experiences saw the bad in others, whereas my granddad didn't so it taught them both how to identify the scammers and the genuine, and allowed them to have a good social life. My grandparents to this day are so popular. I don't say all of this to show off. I'm sharing it because it seems others expect so much in their partner's and even when someone knows something about themselves they live in denial, and just end up making a mess of everything.
We are allowed to not be 100% best of ourselves that will come with time.
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Peppa · 31-35, F
You know it's funny you say that because people often say the times have changed. But my grandad came here in the 60's without my Nan who he had to leave in Jamaica, with their 2 daughter's, they weren't even married then. My grandad talks about struggling for ages looking for work, and even then it was guaranteed and he was laid off a few time's. Although he was saving he didn't indulge in the 9-5 lifestyle work then pub etc.
But realised that wasn't going to get my Nan and daughters here anytime soon.
My Nan reluctantly (as she said it wasn't ideal her having him away) believed in my grandad but she made the decision to do it. Had he been a man talking about buying the latest Xbox or designer crap or flashing $700 in a club. I think she would have lost faith in him. That's the difference. My Nan said she waited 1 year for my grandad but they talked regularly. And wrote letters.
When my Nan cane here she didn't expect my grandad to do it all she worked also. They were a team, anything they were invited to they attended together, the only time they did things separately was if it was family related.
Thanks for sharing that! Good stuff!

I think you nailed it with the word "respect" because without that, any relationship is doomed.
Kaitlyn · 46-50, F
They are very fortunate to have a long happy marriage!
Peppa · 31-35, F
And long may it last. They are the best role models I have. I love them to bits, and I still catch the love between them. Especially when they think no-one looking.
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
How did he know that she was the one
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
@Justlilyg: so keeping your panties on is what makes you have a man want you and marry you ?
Peppa · 31-35, F
@juiceyangel333: haha maybe I think you have to know the type of man you are dealing with. And always remain true to yourself. If you say I don't like... don't let him do it and tolerate it either. Consistency.
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
Where did they meet @Justlilyg:
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Peppa · 31-35, F
Well I'm glad it's obvious to you doesn't seem that way for others
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Also, congrats to your grandparents, something like that today would be very rare
Peppa · 31-35, F
@QueenOfQuirk: I know a couple and I think they'll make it long-term. They have been together 10years so far they have moved to various parts of this country and return home again they married last year and now have their first daughter. It seems promising because they work together.

 
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