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I'm 33yrs old, single and do not want to get married and I can't have kids. Am I worthless?

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I guess I am too! I am 46 and have neither and want neither.
louisesoulstar · 26-30, F
if your happy and contributing to society then your not worthless.
SW-User
Only if you think those things define a woman
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
Why do you need to do any of it? You do not. Society does not rule your world ;)
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Nope you are fairly normal... many women and men dont get married at ALL now or if they do it's not til their late 30s.. and kids, def optional...
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my first thought is 'not enough data to tell'. and then my second is 'did you get a liberal arts degree? or can you do hard sciences?'. and then I stop typing that in and backspace cuz I figure it'll offend many. and then I put it back, anyway.

there's much to life. it's very difficult to truly be completely worthless. just because you aren't useful in the way someone or some people want you to be doesn't mean that you're useless.
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a taoist sotry that fits. I thought it was better in the version I remember.

The Useless Tree ~

Hui Tzu said to Chuang, “I have a big tree, the kind they call a “stinktree.” The trunk is so distorted, so full of knots, no one can get a straight plank out of it. The branches are so crooked you cannot cut them up in any way that makes sense.”

“There it stands beside the road. No carpenter will even look at it. Such is your teaching – big and useless.”

Chuang Tzu replied, “Have you ever watched the wildcat crouching, watching his prey. The prey leaps this way, and that way, high and low, and at last lands in the trap. And have you seen the Yak? Great as a thundercloud, he stands in his might. Big? Sure, but he can’t catch mice!”

“So for your big tree, no use? Then plant it in the wasteland, in emptiness. Walk idly around it, rest under its shadow. No axe or bill prepares its end. No one will ever cut it down.”

“Useless? You should worry!”
MrsP15 · 41-45, F
You are not worthless just because you aren't dating and can't have children. You never know someone could sweep you off your feet and then boom your married! Lol and if you want kids you can always adopt! But you are not worthless
you may save us all?? or make some other meaningful change in the world
very few people are worthless
give me those that think they are,,, and we will do things
walabby · 61-69, M
I think that you're hanging with the wrong crowd. Join clubs that suit your interests and you'll find like minded guys...
Mert5356 · 41-45, M
35 and single here with neither marriage or children a good option for me. I am not certain it will ever be
Only you can answer that ,do you feel worthless ?
Quietbeauty · 36-40, F
Yes of course
SW-User
Everyone is here for a purpose
gurlwatcher22 · 61-69, M
Quite the opposite,Sweetness!!
melbeacher · 56-60, M
Absolutely NOT !
Quietbeauty · 36-40, F
Just got rejected again tonight
Quietbeauty · 36-40, F
Relationship, but get this he asked before we part could he get a naked picture of me! Wtf???
wants a trophy,,, and welll you know...
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@Quietbeauty: aww tosser who just wanted to use you for his own kicks.. you saw through that. I think that's the worry.. men who hear you dont want to get married or have kids can tend to think this means you are up for giving them thrills .. nope it doesnt mean that at all you are still a person with feelings. U seem pretty smart.. please know that the rejection is not about YOU it's about them wanting free rides and getting grumpy when you say no..
walabby · 61-69, M
Heel no.. There's all sorts of things you can do that are totally worthwhile.. !
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lorne13 · 61-69, M
beauty is never worthless
No you're not worthless at all.
SW-User
Hell no, why?? 😦
Quietbeauty · 36-40, F
Every guy I meet wants those things and I'm heartbroken because of it, and feel like I'm never going to find someone
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@Quietbeauty: Don't worry, more and more people don't want kids, if you love someone, kids can be important, but if it turns into the most important, it's a marriage based on wrong principles, in my opinion at least.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
So many women at this age are ALL ABOUT the kids thing. I honestly did not think a non kid obsessed woman existed. Kudos.
Quietbeauty · 36-40, F
Problem I have is every guy I meet wants those things and then I tell them I don't and their gone leaving me hurting and heartbroken
thinkincubes · 41-45
true enough, there's plenty of guys like that too... especially past a certain age
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@Quietbeauty: you make a very good point.. it isnt just women who want kids... many men do too.. but not all.. I am not suggesting you date my older son lol but he doesnt want kids.. never has
[b]No[/b], you're not worthless at all.
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Quietbeauty · 36-40, F
Thank you I appreciate it
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