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Is it normal for good friends to pick on you in front of people?

I had a birthday gathering this past Friday with my friends and one of my best friends was total different in like her mannerisms. When she arrived she was very loud so I asked if her she was okay and she just said she was happy it was my birthday. Than in front of my other friends she started saying things like in a sense I felt belittling me but I did not say anything I just kept quiet. She is usually more reserved and quiet when its just her and I but than when I bring her around my other friends especially my guy friends she tends to do the same mannerism. I am confused as to whether I am being to sensitive and in my head but also on the other hand I feel like she secretly has something against me but does not say it otherwise when shes "joking" with me in front of other. Is this normal, do your friends do this to you?
JaneCas
26-30, F
27 replies 45 views Feb 18, 2020
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JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M
Personally I find my old friends are like that and as I've got older I've chosen more mature ppl as my friends. Ppl have a tendency to find belittling others humorous but rarely find it humorous when you do the same bk. plus you can't be too sensitive but you can be dim af
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@JovialPlutonian I too need to be more wiser in choosing my friends :) Thanks
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Pfuzylogic · M
I would say she is being low level competitive and will not confess it.
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Pfuzylogic · M
@JaneCas
The way she acts in public is how she feels about you. You are being set up and I wouldn’t trust her. She is using you to lift herself up at your expense.
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@Pfuzylogic Yea I feel this way too thanks for your insight.
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Pfuzylogic · M
@JaneCas
I hate to be negative about relationships but it seems that she doesn’t know how to be a real friend. A real friend wouldn’t do the silliness she is doing.
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SW-User
some people get fuckin weird when they're around people, some try to be the center of attention or some guys try to be macho to show they real men etc. i guess not everyone gets to grow up with age
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@SW-User Yea I have hunch that she wants to be the center of attention but I don't know why like she acts like that its annoying.
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SW-User
@JaneCas it's repulsive because you know that they're rational/sane people and why would they do something so infantile. you might not going to be her friend, if it keeps happening cuz i had something similar happened and had to ditch their ass
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@SW-User Yea, agreed but I also think that relationships have disagreements and one should grow from them but of course if the behavior is not changed by the other than its time to let go of them. thanks
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Syktur · 26-30, M
Depends on if they’re lightly poking fun or if they’re really making harsh digs at you. If you feel belittled you should probably say something
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JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M
Sensitivity is a sign of awareness
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@JovialPlutonian Hmmm, I am going to let this sink in because I am a very aware person.
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JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M
@JaneCas yes you sense more!
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@JovialPlutonian Thank you for this insight, never thought of it this way.
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Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Maybe shes insecure and puts you down in front of other people to make herself seem better. No we'll debase eachother in public but its obviously in jest. The same person I answer the phone to and say "Ugh god, the fuck do you want" "AH wrong number I dialled cunt by accident" etc.

She sounds a little two faced tbh.
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@Ryannnnnn I have feeling about your thoughts but I am trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. :)
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HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
She could possibly truly feel that way about you but doesn’t have the guts to say things about you when you two are alone together. Hopefully she doesn’t act like nothing happened afterwards. I used to have a cousin like this. I stopped talking to him because of this. It’s some fake shit to do.
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@HermannFegelein Yea I do think that I feel that with her like she is two faced.
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Justiceforall · M
Sounds likes she's trying to impress those other people at your expense, especially around the guys, she might not know she's doing it, tell her that you don't appreciate it, if she gets mad I think she was knowingly doing it. If she doesn't then it was a mistake that she knows about and can correct it.
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NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F
Sounds jealous. I wouldnt have friends like her around.
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@NeuroticByNature Will she how it goes, I am going have a talk with her and if she continue to do the same thing I am not going be friends with her.
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SW-User
I wouldn't like it
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Snoopy123 · 16-17, M
No
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MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
"friends" are always like this. And no you're not wrong, they're being assholes.
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JaneCas · 26-30, F
@MartinTheFirst Yea I am going have a talk with her because she seems to always act this way when I bring her around my friends, she acts really snarky with me in front of them its stupid.
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