How do you dump someone that didn't do anything wrong, they're just not right for you?
He's supportive and is trying his best to make it work. I don't think he sees that I'm not what's best for him either.
31-35, F
greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
@Virgo94 The problem with people like this in this situation is that they will give you a passionate argument and say you are wrong. Often, the person who wants to break it up gets the impression that they need the rejectee's permission to break it up. So they keep on trying to talk them into it which never works.
You DO have the right to break up a relationship unilaterally. In fact, it's not only your right, it's your duty; it allows the other person to go out there and find someone who really cares, someone who can truly appreciate them in a way you can't.
You DO have the right to break up a relationship unilaterally. In fact, it's not only your right, it's your duty; it allows the other person to go out there and find someone who really cares, someone who can truly appreciate them in a way you can't.
Virgo94 · 26-30, F
@greenmountaingal If you truly don't want to be with someone then just do exactly that. Don't be with them. You don't have to take their argument into consideration. And you surely don't need their permission...? I've never even heard of that before lol.
greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
@Virgo94 Lots of good hearted naive young people believe that they can't just dump someone without convincing that someone it's the right thing for both of them. A friend of mine's daughter once spent 16 hours straight on the phone with her boyfriend "helping him understand" why they had to break up.
greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
Free him to find someone out there who can appreciate him as you cannot.
"Humphrey, as I've gotten to know you it has become very clear to me that you can make a woman very happy; but it's also become clear to me that I am not that woman. I'm sorry, Humphrey, but it's over."
(Give him about 5 minutes to express whatever he wants to say about it)
"I can hear that you feel very strongly about this. Nevertheless, it's over, Humphrey. Best of luck to you."
"Humphrey, as I've gotten to know you it has become very clear to me that you can make a woman very happy; but it's also become clear to me that I am not that woman. I'm sorry, Humphrey, but it's over."
(Give him about 5 minutes to express whatever he wants to say about it)
"I can hear that you feel very strongly about this. Nevertheless, it's over, Humphrey. Best of luck to you."
Silverwings · 70-79, F
rckt148 · 61-69, M
Be honest ,tell him how you feel
Its better to be told kindly we are just not working for me
then to let it go on and you really hurt him when you just break it off
at least do it so that he has closure
and not trying to figure out on his own what he did wrong
And for the record ,we hat the "Its not you its me" one
we kind of like to know what didn't work so we don't repeat it
Its better to be told kindly we are just not working for me
then to let it go on and you really hurt him when you just break it off
at least do it so that he has closure
and not trying to figure out on his own what he did wrong
And for the record ,we hat the "Its not you its me" one
we kind of like to know what didn't work so we don't repeat it
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wtfgirl001 · 31-35, F
Just to avoid confusion, this person is trolling and I don't know who he is.
SW-User
@wtfgirl001 who is trolling?
SW-User
@wtfgirl001 who???
Silverwings · 70-79, F
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Silverwings Well some people are so wonderful ,age is just a number
So ,I can get the being persistent
but the tasteless ,perverted pic
That is part of a sickness
They need help
the are just in denial
Its as real as any addiction ,when you have no self control
you need help
You are a wise lady ,you did the right thing ,
I hope you reported him too ,those kind that have no self control don't need to be here ,they need to be in rehab
So ,I can get the being persistent
but the tasteless ,perverted pic
That is part of a sickness
They need help
the are just in denial
Its as real as any addiction ,when you have no self control
you need help
You are a wise lady ,you did the right thing ,
I hope you reported him too ,those kind that have no self control don't need to be here ,they need to be in rehab
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Silverwings Well in the future ,let me know who it is so I can have someone look into them ,
Unsolicited nudes are against the rules ,but they can't be enforced if no one reports them .
Perversion is a sickness our society is refusing to address
as a result ,its getting worse
But I understand ,no one likes to cause others problems
But as a former sex addict ,I know as much as any other addiction
they need help ,or it just gets worse
We can't fix them here ,or actually do anything except terminate the account
But some of them ,if you let them know someone is looking
Thats all they need to get them back in check
They are more cautious as to who they send nudes to
Unsolicited nudes are against the rules ,but they can't be enforced if no one reports them .
Perversion is a sickness our society is refusing to address
as a result ,its getting worse
But I understand ,no one likes to cause others problems
But as a former sex addict ,I know as much as any other addiction
they need help ,or it just gets worse
We can't fix them here ,or actually do anything except terminate the account
But some of them ,if you let them know someone is looking
Thats all they need to get them back in check
They are more cautious as to who they send nudes to
greenmountaingal · 80-89, F
wtfgirl001 · 31-35, F
@Fiddlesticks Ugh, yeah. It's hard.
Reflection2 · M
Blame them. Play victim 😉
