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Is NOT wanting to get married bad?

I am currently 30 and not quite sure if I want to get married. Personally I feel people marry for mostly financial reasons. I don't see much difference between marriage and a normal relationship. People say when you marry some one it shows you're fully committed to them. But in marriage people cheat all the time, sometimes without their spouse ever finding out. I prefer to just date around and focus on myself for now. My mind might change later on.
selenamoonstoneq · 56-60, F
No, if your not ready to get married please do not get married. There is nothing wrong with being unmarried. I am a 50 something year young female and I am single.. If you get married for all the wrong reasons, have little ones they will see you and your wife fighting/etc that is no good for them it stresses them out, gives them anxiety I know. Been there and done that. Please, think about it and hard. But no, it's not bad to be 30 something and unmarried I would in my opinion see you wait then you, your wife and if you had kids miserable and then divorced it is devastating to kids to see mom and dad fight and divorce. My opinion. Good Luck! I hope I helped and I don't sound like I am giving a lecture. I don't mean too, I am trying to help. From experiences I have saw with family, friends and other couples.
SW-User
@selenamoonstoneq lol. We posted at the same time. Your point is a good explanation of why people shouldn't rush into it.
selenamoonstoneq · 56-60, F
@SW-User Thanks, a million Harry. So is yours. Yes, we did post at the same time. lol
kydflash · 31-35, M
@selenamoonstoneq Thank you very much, greatly appreciated and helpful
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
At your age most people just want to have fun still. There's less pressure to marry now, or even to settle down.. falling in love is the biggest reason to settle down and until and unless that happens you are unlikely to want to settle down..
IN truth even when people do settle and form a committed relationship.. they don't always see any need to marry.. there are lots of reasons not to.. and a heap to do so.. but I dont think it matters if you dont ever marry.. many people still have kids etc without being married
kydflash · 31-35, M
@Adaydreambeliever Thank you, that was very helpful
SW-User
Not at all. Do what makes you happy. Don't let anyone make you feel like there's something wrong with you. Not everyone is cut out for marriage. And, maybe one day, you might meet someone that you know is the right match for you and you change your mind.

Frankly, I think a lot of people rush into it because they think it's what they're supposed to do.
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@selenamoonstoneq I didn't see your response. I'll go look for it now.
selenamoonstoneq · 56-60, F
@SW-User :)
kydflash · 31-35, M
@SW-User Thank you, I plan to focus on myself for now and hopefully, maybe the right one will come.
SW-User
I'm almost 35 and kinda ready for marriage but the last one i dated did a real number on me. i will eventually entrap a nerdy asocial wifey with a sense of humor i guess 🤔
kydflash · 31-35, M
@SW-User Sorry to hear about your last marriage. Best of wishes on your next on.
SW-User
@kydflash lol wasn't married. last relationship
kydflash · 31-35, M
@SW-User sorry about that 😊
raysam363 · 31-35, F
It's not bad, and like you said, you may even change your mind later. Too many rush to get married these days, and that's why divorce rates are so high. Take your time, find the right person, then make your decision.
kydflash · 31-35, M
@raysam363 Thank you
justanothername · 51-55, M
Nothing wrong with that. Some people are happily independent.
kydflash · 31-35, M
@justanothername Thank you.
justanothername · 51-55, M
I was 33 before I got married. Other people prefer their own company.
kydflash · 31-35, M
@justanothername For now I prefer my own company, may change in the future though. Thanks again.
Bubbles · 36-40, F
no, marriage isn't something everyone wants.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
@Bubbles or can make work ...
kydflash · 31-35, M
@Bubbles Thank you
kydflash · 31-35, M
@ozgirl512 Thank you
selenamoonstoneq · 56-60, F
Marriage is wonderful I am sure if.... you can find the right Mr. or if your a woman Mr. but when you don't it's like a dangerous explosion of dynamite! If you can find the right one it's like oh Wow!
kydflash · 31-35, M
@selenamoonstoneq Thank you, good women are hard to come by these days.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Fewer and fewer people in the UK are getting married.. I don't see this as a problem in any way.
kydflash · 31-35, M
@Adaydreambeliever Thank you very much
As long as you don’t waste anyone [b]else’s[/b] time, you’re good. The problem is when someone who knows they don’t want to get married, strings along someone who does, without making things clear to them.
kydflash · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard Well said, Thank you.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Marriage is a fine institution... But who wants to live in an institution?
kydflash · 31-35, M
@ozgirl512 lol, that's how it kinda feels to me as well.
SW-User
kydflash · 31-35, M
@SW-User Thank you
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Having sex outside of marriage is.
kydflash · 31-35, M
@MartinTheFirst Thank you

 
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