I Don't Want Kids

As a woman in childbearing age it's pretty difficult dealing with no desire to have kids. Especially because of how family oritented society is, i'm not saying it's a bad thing after all it's the thing that provided me a stable childhood, which is very important, but it's just not for me.

I don't think i'll find happiness in being a mother. However, I might find happiness in finding someone, and being together (emphasis on might). The thing that I struggle with is not my actual desire to have children, but it's society's reaction to my choice. And as much as we all like to pretend we are so hardcore, but we are still influenced by the enviroment and those around us. So i'm worried I might get shamed because of my choices, "oh she's 30 but not married? she must be really sad (imaginging my future here)".

I'm only 23 now, but people my age do have kids and their own families as well, but for me can I have a successful career and an apartment in NYC with my closest friends to live together? Is that too much to ask :/

inquisitive1407 · F

You are still quite young. Your decision may not remain fixed, but on the other hand it may be. Someone on here had posted that women should not get married/have kids until they are at least 30. Education and a career should come first. Don't depend on a man to support you financially.

offingg · 26-30, F

@inquisitive1407: It was never my plan to depend on a man, my plan was always to build a career. And I understand i'm young, but women as young as 16 are already being taught how they need to find someone and have kids. Even if indirectly, the message is everywhere. I don't think i'll change my mind, but I learned not to be too sure, things might change.