My children will not know the pain their parents have gone thorough

If only it were that simple... even though you might not abuse your children, it's possible that someone else might.

One of my early abusers was another kid at school - my parents didn't know about it until afterwards and there's not a lot they could have done.

Cool, that's the best way to deal with it.. make sure that your kids grow up in a world where they don't have to deal with that trauma you and husband suffered.. Cycles of abuse can be broken.

Most people wouldnt be able to even come close to comprehending what a cycle breaker is; what they've faced, and what they've been through...

That is very powerfully said. I do know what it's like. You and your husband are very strong!!

Bravo!