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I've Made Mistakes In Life

I got married in 1992. I can't say it was the "happiest day of my life". I was very much in love, yet I felt terribly anxious about what lied ahead... I had been living with my parents to save money, had just started my first real job, just out of college, and I wondered if I would be able to pay all my bills and be able to "support a family". Maybe I just have a pessimistic streak, or maybe it was a six sense, but I was anxious that my "married life" might turn out being a total disaster in the end.

Fast forward 25 years. Divorced, broke, alone. It turns out, my worst fears were totally justified!

My advise for all the young people that post here wanting a girlfriend or a boyfriend: I know how you feel, I know the intense eagerness to "love and be loved". But frankly, I wish I had never had a girlfriend. I would have been able to focus on my career and make/save a lot of money. Then, after I had "my shit together", I would have been able to pick and chose. It was a big mistake trying to "wing it" and "believe in the power of love", marrying before I had achieved financial stability and a solid career.

These are my words of wisdom. You've been warned. You're welcome
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sleepykoala31-35, F
馃槴 now this make me scared of getting married even more
contrails56-60, M
@sleepykoala Maybe it's a *sign* 馃槰

Or not...?

Sorry to make you doubt... But think about it. Cool-headed. Pros and cons...

Feelings are fragile and ephemeral...
sleepykoala31-35, F
@contrails sad is the society keep pushing me to get married, cause they say I'm old haha I'm 27 anyway. the feelings is mix, when we get married we want someone to love and accept us for what we are.

don't you and your exwife feel that?
contrails56-60, M
@sleepykoala I got married at 26. Yes getting married seemed like the natural/normal thing to do... We had been dating for 4 years so it was "about time"... But if I had a crystal ball I'd had waited until my mid 30s...
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sleepykoala31-35, F
but what's the problem?
contrails56-60, M
@sleepykoala I think "the problem" is to be sure there is a solid financial foundation when you start a family... But like @hippyjoe1955 says, every life is different, you may just get lucky starting your married life from scratch...