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CountScrofula I watched my Mom full time
I had my girlfriend and her sister go in and make sure she was decent ,the sister was a huge help cooking for her and waiting on her while I took care of the home and they yards
But moving her ,getting her to dialysis every other day and to her Peritonitis where they drain fluids off her abdomen so she did not die of congestive heart failure ,
I was the only one strong enough to lift her and not hurt her
I got one day a week that I went to spend time with other family members ,(none willing to help ,but a place to take a break ),and sure as hell I was getting a "Help Me" call
She tried to do something and I find her half way under the bed
So with a bad back I lift the bed enough to lift her
(she was not a tiny women ) get her to a chair ,remake her bed and get her back in it ,,getting her on and off her portable toilet ,getting her cleaned up
You have not properly lived until you take care of your parents caring for them like children ,,,and still show them the respect they are due.
Never treating them like a child and robbing them of their dignity ,
I hear people all the time saying how hard it is when they can still walk ,shower themselves ,get in and out of a car
They don't have a clue ,,until they are no longer ambulatory
That changes everything ,,then you really are taking care of your parents ,,,thats when most end up in a nursing home
Taking them to the hospital and doctors is part of it
even when they fight you about going .