I Am a Caregiver

Its sarcasm and I use it when hes getting on my nerves. Anyone who has been following my stories here knows that. My great grandmother was very loved and appreciated, she deserved better than him. He told her on her deathbed he regretted marrying her and that she was a bad mother. He is a bad person all around and I do not love him. I care for him as I cared for his wife because my father loves him. I'm not a bad person because I get annoyed and call someone a raisin. I still care for him and make sure he is safe and comfortable even if I dont think he deserves it. What I think is irrelevant.
@rckt148

@GlitterBug I was beat like a dog daily by a woman who called herself my sister ,,she cheated on my Dad ,allows us to be abused ,my brother almost die
But she was my Mom ,and a pain in the ass ,,,but she was my Mom
I took care of my grandpa 2 yrs ,my Dad for 3 ,,Mom for 14 months until she showed us all ,stopped taking her liver meds and in 5 days she was dead just like she said she would be

I do not care what history you have ,,,forgive it

When all you have left is your dignity ,,,

We reap what we sow ,,,I will never see a nursing home
As I was there for my elders as my Dad was for his
My Kids will be there for me

The love me so much because they know the story ,,yet I was there ,,kept my family in their own homes ,,even though I am disabled myself

I set a better example then the one set for me
Now my girls are nurses ,,,they are excellent care givers
I would take a switch to any of them I ever heard them disrespect the elderly ,,,now I am old ,,and in bad health
My kids are there for me ,,,I pray you are as blessed

But if you don't like the job ,,you are doing no one any favors ,,,when all you have us time
You get to know who wants to be around you ,and who is there for what they might get
I am not judging you personally ,,I was not rude to you
I have not assumed anything ,,and I do not know your story
But you did show disrespect of the elderly ,,thats all I need to know
there are people that will help if the job is a burden
If Grandma loved him ,,,then thats all that should matter
even if he was an ass too ,,,2 wrongs don't make a right

I haven't done any wrongs to him. As I said, I still care for him because he is loved. Just not by me. I don't have to love him to show him kindness. I know everyone in this thread means well, I'm not offended by your thoughts. If anything, I appreciate that you'll share them.
My life is stressful. This is my outlet. I dont always go about venting in the best ways, I'm not always respectful when it comes to my family. Maybe that's one of my flaws. But I will always help them when they need it. Even with their flaws, they don't deserve to be abandoned when they are old and sick or when they need help. That's not who I am and that's not who my family has raised me to be.

I do not respect him because he is old. I respect him because he is a human being. I lack a certain respect for him because of his actions in life. Growing old does not give you a free pass. Basic respect is given, anything else is earned. He did not earn it. He still has made no effort to earn it. Realize that, too.

@rckt148

@GlitterBug I can respect you set your feelings aside ,,I respect that a lot 🤗
I also hear someone has raised you right ,and that shows 🤗
The respect for elders is a commandment of God ,his only judge ,,if he has committed wrongs and not repented ,he will not escape his seeds he sown ,
I respect you see him as a human you do not have to like to show compassion to ,,,as you show mercy ,mercy will be shown to you ...
I respect everything you said .and you have my sympathy ,I know its hard being there for someone that was never there for anyone else ,,,My Mom was hell on her Mom who passed away at 49 from a disease that crippled her so young ,,I watched her slowly die ,,she was my world ,my protector ,,the reason I am the man I am today ,,she planted seed in my life as I have sown into my kids ,,and apparently someone sown into yours ,,
You have my deepest respect ,and please pardon my other comments ,,,as someone who has lost so many I love
and now my own mortality is at hand ,,
I get how young people have adopted "You have to earn my respect and age does not grant you that ,,actually it does
but you will get it one day ,,I spent years showing my elders what know nothings they were too ,,,I repented ,I was wrong
May Christ grant you the peace you need ,and a blessing when its your turn
I get venting too ,,Mom said she wanted it on her head stone
"I told you I was sick" ,,and I replied "If I can add but it only took me 50 yrs to die ",,we heard it everyday
I am dying or I am going to commit suicide ,,I guess she did both ,,but I miss her ,,I wish I had spoiled her more now that she is gone ,,,I really thought she would drag it out until I was gone just to spite me ,
She made it hard on my family and I ,as she always had
But she was Mom ,,now that both of my parents are gone
It sucks ,,I miss both of them
I was a good care giver ,,just wish I'd been a better son
I was to busy blaming her for a shitty life to realize
I was on my won since 13 ,,the only one keeping it shitty was me ..she was just my excuse ,,,So I get it ,I still vent sometimes too ,,Wishing you nothing but the best
I know its hard enough being a care giver ,especially with so much resentment ,,,someone must have raised you right
My deep respect for them too ,,Family is everything