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I Want To Get My Confidence Back

sorry in advance for the long read.






So I have been on Similar Worlds now for several years since it's first week of opening and when I first joined this place I had zero confidence and I mean zero confidence. I hated myself and everything about me and I would often always joke about myself and put myself down constantly in a attempt to do it before anyone else could.
I thought people would be making fun of me and calling me all sorts of things that I would constantly think about myself and yet none of that ever happened.

I hardly ever said my opinion on controversial subjects as I didn't want to annoy anyone and just wanted everyone to like me. Turns out that just truly being myself here has made me gain some of the best friends on this site that I never could have imagined gaining when I first joined.

I hid behind profile pics of cartoons or whatever else for a long while till I started to finally get a bit brave and started showing myself more and more and that started with just showing my eyes till what you see today.

I know a lot of people say this place is not supportive at all but I strongly disagree because without the help of this place I don't think I would be where I am today..

So a huge big thank you to everyone who has shown me nothing but kindness even if I have said my views on things that you do not agree with. It means the world to me.


Here is a repost of a pic I posted a little while back. When I joined here I never thought I would ever have the confidence to post my face let alone a full body photo (granted I really like this photo, so it makes it easier for me). And yes some people say I show photos for attention, lol yes it is obvious and im not hiding that fact. Getting attention can at the best of times be truly horrifying to me, so in a way it is kind of therapeutic like facing my fears.


I have been in therapy since I was 10 years old and in 16 years the one of the things that I feel has helped me the most is the site and opening myself up more and more, and so many of you wonderful amazing people



IrishPat · M
I know this is an old post now but it’s the first time I’ve seen it. Funny how posts come back around again!
I’ve mentioned before how I like reading your honesty on here. I’m not talking about your personal views when I say that but I also like that you’re not afraid to air them whether people agree or not. What I am talking about is your honesty about yourself and how open you are with it.
It’s great for you and you view it as therapeutic but it’s also great for anyone who may be struggling and for them maybe seeing someone else who is or has come through a similar journey to themselves could be very helpful!
Anyway this wasn’t meant to be as long winded! Just wanted to say I always like to read your posts like this and you’re definitely one of my favourite people to read on here.
Awesome pic too. You look stunning as always.
IrishPat · M
@PlumBerries haha! Ah I wouldnt worry about that! I’ve not read anything cringe so far and there would be something wrong if we didn’t make ourselves cringe every now and again. We’ll always be our own worst critics 😊
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
that's true and I am glad you don't find me cringy haha
IrishPat · M
@PlumBerries of course not! Don’t be silly
SW-User
This place is supportive. Believe it or not I’ve learned to be a slightly better person here.

I am not sure if I would call what I did “confidence” but I shared a full Monty pic on the body positive thread. I didn’t even want/need positive feedback. I just wanted the courage to skinnydip with the rest of the folk.

You look great. I’ve always enjoyed your writings and feedback. I hope you maintain this confidence.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@SW-User it truly is supportive :)
That is awesome this site has made you feel like a slightly better person.
And being more confident body wise is also amazing . Congratulations 🤗

thankyou for your kind words as well
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Great that you found confidence and feel better.

That is a great pic! You are pretty and have great legs!
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@PlumBerries That happens. Take it on the chin.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
its all in the past. I am with the guy of my dreams now :)
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@PlumBerries Wonderful!
SW-User
Lovely. Truly. You are an amazing person with an enormous heart. You are living proof that a person can go through hell and came out the other end a stronger and more confident person xx
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@SW-User thank you 🤗 that means a lot to me
SW-User
@PlumBerries you're welcome my friend xx
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Awesome! You became an intelligent,confident beautiful woman !
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
I have issues just talking in general, let alone talking to large groups of people and even worse talking about my past.. yet I did it three times now and got paid for it.. so yeah lol
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@PlumBerries Good for you. You are a role model for girls!
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
I don't know about that but thank you
Pfuzylogic · M
Of course you look amazing!
I remember when you put the SnapChat filters on and it hid your natural beauty.
I remember so well when you first went out with your boyfriend and I was cheering you on. You know I think you are someone special ! 🥀
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@Pfuzylogic thanks ☺️
i still filters a lot haha
You are certainly one of the people I was talking about in this post. You have always been super supportive and kind to me. You are truly a special person. Thankyou 🤗
Pfuzylogic · M
@PlumBerries
Why thank you! 🤗❤️
When we grow up it is hard to control what happens and consequentially the view of our self worth. Just think, you are about to shift in overdrive 😁
Life is yours to experience
in a positive way.

You are such a winner ! 🌈 💚
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@Pfuzylogic 🤗 aww thank you. I will remember that
SW-User
Glad things have improved so much for you since you joined here. I've enjoyed reading your posts and comments and i especially liked your movie reviews :) Great pic too!
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@SW-User thank you sir.. haha I enjoyed the movie reviews also :D
SW-User
@PlumBerries Awesome! looking forward to your next.. no rush of course 😛
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
maybe closer to Christmas I might do a Christmas movie one... maybe lol
Fantabulous · 46-50, F
How wonderful. I think we often concentrate on the negativity of social media, but much like your story some of the people from social media have helped me to believe in me again, for which I am equally grateful.

Beautiful pic 🦋
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@Fantabulous that is so awesome you have had such positive experiences here as well. You are right as in people concentrating on the negatives so much that the positive stuff gets forgotten about
You have no idea... How hot and sexy you are. And you always will be. Youre body is sexy from head to toe. i love your legs with all my heart im sorry im sorry😓🔥
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@TimingQuasars thank you :)
I do really like this pic lol
@PlumBerries you will never like it more than me haha😓😋🔥

I would love to pick you up and carry you that way. Just to feel your perfect legs and get a workout but your tight and slim sk it's fine haha im not too weak just saying. Your very gorgouse. You have very sexy bite-able thighs and legs beautiful Sorry to say
@PlumBerries i got to admit that.. Um.. im very passionate about this picture and your beauty soo much that its building tension inside me and staring at this could help get me off soo damn good just staring at your body and enjoy fantisizing of you until i finally release My desires of you for a little while.. 😓💓 Youre a very sexy girl in evry way and im sorry for saying that i CANNOT help it. You can't blame me youre very hot and sedective girl you always are. And always will be
SW-User
It wasn’t a too long read, such sweet words. I feel this too, I have made amazing friends here too just for being myself shamelessly. Glad to hear that you are doing the same too.
Happy new year 🎇💥🎆
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@SW-User I am glad you have made great friends and can be yourself here :)
thank you, happy new years to you too
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PlumBerries · 31-35, F
thanks :)
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Terrance · 41-45, M
Oh my god 😲
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
as in the negative sense
Terrance · 41-45, M
@PlumBerries ultra positive
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
☺️
Gangstress · 41-45, F
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
SW-User
I'm happy it has helped you
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
I have more confidence in my life right now than I ever have before so yeah :)
SW-User
@PlumBerries it becomes then what you want to do with it?
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
I suppose it does
Confidence when used well is a beautiful thing.

Clearly ya mastered it 🤗
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@Teggy thanks but I am still learning to be more confident :)
KiwiBird · 36-40, F
First time I have seen thids post too.....All Good Ms Plum
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@KiwiBird thanks Ms kiwi
SW-User
What a brilliant read. So glad you're feeling more confident.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@SW-User thank you :D
as am i
awebventure · 46-50, M
What a heartwarming read. 💝
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@awebventure thank you sir
awebventure · 46-50, M
@PlumBerries welcome lady
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
😊
adhane05 · 31-35, M
That's awesome news! You're incredibly beautiful too! ☺️
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
thankyou :)
HoustonClark · 61-69, M
You are a very pretty lady! Very nice photo! Great legs!
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@HoustonClark thank you sir :D
Terrance · 41-45, M
I still love this photo
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@Terrance thanks so do I :)
Terrance · 41-45, M
@PlumBerries Keep posting 😊

And Happy New Year
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
I will and happy new year to you :)
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Aww because you are such a sweet young lady.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@Fungirlmmm i try to be, thankyou :)
*gives you big hugs*
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
LILREBELDOM69VAMP69 · 46-50, M
Congrats sweetheart
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@LILREBELDOM69VAMP69 thank you sir
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
So very sexy and beautiful Plum!
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@PTCdresser57 thankyou ☺️
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Yvw dear...you deserve nice compliments!
SW-User
Beautifully written and lovely pic xx
Beardedguy · 31-35, M
You look great
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
thankyou :)
Beardedguy · 31-35, M
@PlumBerries no worries plum so amazing
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
That's wonderful
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
@MartinTheFirst Thanks Martin :)

 
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