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I Wish I Were Beautiful

It must be nice. Whenever my cousin feels lonely she just posts pictures of herself in her underwear and she immediately has at least a hundred guys lining up to boost her ego. I know another woman who says she needs to get dressed up and go out so guys can buy her drinks and boost her ego.
When you're ugly, you're all alone. No one is going to boost your ego.
No one is even going to bother to pretend to care.
Because ugly women are automatically worthless. And there is nothing that I can ever do to make myself good enough for anyone to even pretend. There is always someone better.
I understand that what my cousin gets isn't lasting. She picks some and insults some and in a week or two she is posting more pictures in her underwear. But, even if only for a few minutes, she can pretend someone gives a damn, and that's more than I can ever hope to achieve.

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SW-User

You don't always need to get stripped down to get compliments. I certainly wouldn't go that far at least.I don't exactly feel I'm the most attractive, especially since I have scars on my thighs from abuse that I wouldn't even let my bf of 2 years see.I won't even go swimming, or I have to cover up my body extra.
Since my body isn't that amazing, then I usually stick with my face instead. I work with what I have. Put makeup on if it makes me feel better about myself. Sure, sometimes compliments are nice, but deep down it doesn't feel as good.

In the end, there's always the thought that it's only about appearance, and if they were to see those parts of your body that you don't like, then they probably wouldn't like it as much either.And everyone has parts they don't like, just that many people hide their dislike better than others.And it's true, there is always someone better. That's why I would never strip down into my underwear even if my body was awesome, because in the end they can always go somewhere else for something better, and they sometimes only compliment you to try to win your attention and maybe get in your pants.If you don't give that, then they will go on to someone else who will be "better" at giving them what they want. And that type of attention doesn't feel good when you know they just move on to someone else without care.

SW-User

@SW-User What does feel good is when you find that one person who genuinely likes you all and gives you compliments. In the end it's genuine, and they mean it.

Myzery · 41-45, F

@SW-User That probably would feel nice, but I believe that it would benefit me more to never hope for anything like that.

SW-User

@Myzery Eventually someone will come along who can give you that. But looking for validation like your cousin does, relying on men to boost your self-esteem, that's one more step towards bad things.People will take advantage of that, so you're probably better off instead of being in a painful cycle of needing constant validation from meaningless men.

Myzery · 41-45, F

@SW-User Now, I will say that I imagine that that cycle isn't fun. She makes more posts about being miserable on Facebook than I do (hooray for hereditary mental illnesses!) But I cannot expect anyone to come along and give me anything.
Having no expectations is the only way to avoid disappointment. Plus I have several relatives who were alone their entire lives, so that is also hereditary, I suppose. 😂

SW-User

@Myzery 😬I'll keep you company in that case so you're not alone!

Myzery · 41-45, F

@SW-User Will there be cake? 🤔

SW-User

@Myzery YUSS, my specialty!😎🍰