Do you deal with death well?

I wish I were stronger and could keep a stone face when grieving, but I can’t. Death is the only thing that makes me emotional. If you had to give the eulogy without losing your shit, how would you keep your face and emotions in check in front of everyone?

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Nobody00 · F

No. In 2018 my father died suddenly in 6 months of cancer, in 2020 my beloved person my grandma died suddenly and both times a professional specialist had to get me out of sudden deep depression. I would cry, sob and sleep all the time for days straight. Eulogy? Forget it. I could never make it to their funerals ....

DecafD

@Nobody00 I’m so sorry to hear all that. Both in such a short period of time as well. 🫂

Nobody00 · F

Thank you and both suddenly.ya I was not ready to say goodbye, let go or live without them. @DecafD my father died of cancer in 6 months but for me it was in one month cause I only found out last (they kept it a secret) . When a person is not ready ....they just aren’t. Grandma died in one day. Like “Yesterday” I spoke to her she was fine, next day my brother texts me “grandma just died” I was in shock and couldn’t come to my senses without help.

DecafD

@Nobody00 my grandma also kept her cancer a secret...I don’t know why people do that. Yeah there’s def no way you could’ve prepared yourself from either. At least you loved them and they loved you. Some people have neither.

MasterofNone · 26-30, M

Why would you wish to keep a stone face ? That's such a bad thing to do to oneself. We should be free to cry anywhere we are. That's being human. In fact, I've seen more people judge those who don't cry at a funeral than those who do, not saying that they should be judged but you get my point.

DecafD

@MasterofNone I just wish I could be better at managing my feelings when grieving. I guess I see it as a weakness in myself if I can’t hold it together long enough in front of tons of people for a eulogy.

MasterofNone · 26-30, M

@DecafD Both weak and strong people will break sooner or later. It is not about being weak or strong, it is about being wise or unwise. And it is not wise to suppress emotional expressions.

SW-User

Yes very

SW-User

I almost died once, and became accepting of it. So I think for some that's how it is. I hope I will feel that way again when my time comes

DecafD

@SW-User that’s a very peaceful mindset. I wish I could be like that.

Piper · 61-69, F

No. I don't deal with a loved one dying very well, at all. I doubt if I'd be able deliver a eulogy, without choking up some.

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

If you need a moment alone to compose yourself then do.

DecafD

@Thevy29 what should I think of to snap out of it? I don’t want the moment to take too long.

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

@DecafD Good question. I sort of just move the feeling aside and concentrate on what's in front of me.

DecafD

@Thevy29 thanks!

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