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Is it irrational to think that if I tell someone things about me, that they'll tell someone else?

I don't know if it's irrational or real.

I'm not trying to share anything crazy.

But sometimes, the " why are you the way you are" question will come up from people.

Some of the people mean no harm and are genuinely curious and I know it.

Even still, I feel that I can't inform them or share with them because they might tell someone whom I [i] don't[/i] want to know ( people who might try to manipulate me with their newfound information),

or that they will lose interest.

Why do I care what they think you might ask?

Because certain people have cared enough to inquire about my actions, or lack of sharing/ getting close with them
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Quote from me, worth bearing in mind :
Information about one's self - Once you give it away you can't take it back, it's theirs to do what they please with
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@iamnikki you should just be careful what you tell them
Coisty · 51-55, M
@SW-User I like that view
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@Coisty thank you 😊
CastorTroy · 31-35, M
Never tell anyone anything personally until you know for sure you can trust them.
People love gossip because usually, they have nothing to say in their own lives.
If you can trust them in the little things, then you know you are onto something.
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
@HotDad sure people always talk. But does it have to be about people
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Trust can be tricky. Being concerned isn't irrational.
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Not at all, because there really are people who can't be trusted. Some of them are otherwise very nice people, but just can't resist the urge to gossip.

Share whatever you feel is appropriate only with people you know and trust, and you will have fewer regrets later in life.
summersong · F
Tbh with very few exceptions I make sure that anything I tell anyone is something I can deal with if it becomes public. I think it’s good to be aware of that possibility and not a problem unless you stop being able to trust anyone with anything personal.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@summersong ^^^this^^^
Wolf90 · M
It's not irrational unfortunately although some people who do pass it on won't do it with the intent of hurting or embarrassing you. It makes sense to be careful who you open up to but you don't have to give away everything in one answer.

Take your time and get to know them. The more they open up to you, the more you can see whether they are people who might be worth opening up to and getting closer to in return. There is no regulation requiring you to tell every single detail about yourself, even to those who are worthy of your trust. That happens over time! Good luck! :)
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Wolf90 thank you. I just feel and am certain of the fact that my unwillingness or lack of Sharing is to robbing me of creating meaningful relationships
Wolf90 · M
@iamnikki Quite possibly it isn't helping so by all means try testing the waters outside of your comfort zone. But you can still do it safely too so don't rush! Definitely do it at your own speed!
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I shouldn't tell you this, don't tell anyone else but...

The only way to be really sure is don't tell anyone.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@SW-User I don't have anything to say that would ruin me. Just prefer if some people keep things to themselves
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@iamnikki That's perfectly fair. If somebody asked me to keep something to myself, I would. Some people find it difficult though.
Repete · 61-69, M
Personally I have a habit of saying what is on my mind and don’t really care if someone else disagrees with me. That’s being me.
That being said I also don’t post everything about me on every billboard for everyone to see all the time. I’m usually an open book but you need to ask or read me .

Being cautious is a good thing, anything that you post or say for that matter, in my opinion, should be expected to leak to the public. Be yourself and honest with yourself. That’s just my opinion.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Repete I was referring to in person communication,. But the above still applies, thank you
Coisty · 51-55, M
I always think there is power in knowledge and to tell someone your thoughts and feelings I'd need to really really trust them.

I would not share easily.
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Anything you tell another person has the potential to be passed along.
Daily life or internet...choose very wisely whom you share information with.
I don't trust so easily on internet anymore, but people in my home life that I am close to.. I trust.

 
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