Is it irrational to think that if I tell someone things about me, that they'll tell someone else?

I don't know if it's irrational or real.

I'm not trying to share anything crazy.

But sometimes, the " why are you the way you are" question will come up from people.

Some of the people mean no harm and are genuinely curious and I know it.

Even still, I feel that I can't inform them or share with them because they might tell someone whom I [i] don't[/i] want to know ( people who might try to manipulate me with their newfound information),

or that they will lose interest.

Why do I care what they think you might ask?

Because certain people have cared enough to inquire about my actions, or lack of sharing/ getting close with them

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Wolf90 · M

It's not irrational unfortunately although some people who do pass it on won't do it with the intent of hurting or embarrassing you. It makes sense to be careful who you open up to but you don't have to give away everything in one answer.

Take your time and get to know them. The more they open up to you, the more you can see whether they are people who might be worth opening up to and getting closer to in return. There is no regulation requiring you to tell every single detail about yourself, even to those who are worthy of your trust. That happens over time! Good luck! :)

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Wolf90 thank you. I just feel and am certain of the fact that my unwillingness or lack of Sharing is to robbing me of creating meaningful relationships

Wolf90 · M

@iamnikki Quite possibly it isn't helping so by all means try testing the waters outside of your comfort zone. But you can still do it safely too so don't rush! Definitely do it at your own speed!