I Am A Strict Mom

@RoboChloe There is a fine line between being strict and abusive though. Being strict is good, teaches kids to not be terrible.

@Poet123 If you feel you need to be strict to teach a kid something, you're probably just not very good at teaching kids. 🤷

Yes, abuse is a different thing entirely, but I still hold that being strict with children to improve their behaviour is like using a sledgehammer to kill a fly: Technically possible, but more likely to destroy the foundations you're standing on than solve the problem at hand.

@RoboChloe Being strict isn't a bad thing.

@MethDozer I think it is.

@RoboChloe It can be hard for a short.childhood or hard for a long adulthood.

@RoboChloe Well that's your opinion.

@Poet123 Of course it is. I'm not claiming to be objectively right, that would be stupid, I'm just talking about what I think.

@RoboChloe You're an idiot.

@Deletedlol How kind of you.

@RoboChloe You say being strict I'd nothing to be proud of but neither is being laidback or a push over. I've lived with both and only the strict one is still in my life. Strict doesn't mean abusive.

@Deletedlol I'm not now, nor have I ever, said strictness means abuse. I don't know why people keep getting defensive about that. I'm not arguing that being strict is necessarily bad for a child, it's just something that I personally disagree with. Personally. I'm not trying to attack strict parents, many of them are wonderful and loving parents, I'm just sharing my opinion. No parenting style is something to be proud of, because there's no objective best choice, just opinions. You should be proud of your kid and what they become, not the way you chose to bring them up. At least that's what I think.

@RoboChloe you are quite confused...got kids?

@RoboChloe it depends on your interpretation of “strict”. If it just means spanking hen I agree - but that is a narrow definition. If it means having clear, well-defined boundaries and expectations so that your kids understand how they should behave, I have no problem with that. It does not mean that you cannot adapt to circumstances but you do need consistency. It is unfair on a child to wonder why they are being punished for doing something today that they did yesterday without comment.