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I Want to Be a Dad

For the past years, I been wanting to become a father. Right now, I know I'm not ready to take that step into parenthood yet, as I've been trying to sort out my life, and get my finances built up. Personally, I don't see myself being a husband, only as a father. I don't really think I'll ever get married due to my lack of interest to do so. When I'm finally ready to become a father, I will more than likely adopt or go through surrogacy. Both of which, I know, are expensive, but seeing either path, I will have to be emotionally, physically, and financially ready to start that chapter in my life.

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WanderingThrough · 31-35, F

Good for you! I feel the same way actually. I don’t really have a desire to be a wife, but I want to be mother. There is one person I could see myself sharing my life with but one of us would have to move continents to do so and I don’t think either of us will ever be ready to make that commitment. I hope you can be a father one day.

MrPredicable · 31-35, M

@WanderingThrough Thanks. I hope you can be a mother as well. :)

Lostpoet · M

I think every kid needs support from both parents, and if you are not mature enough to have an adult relationship with someone than I don't think you are mature enough to raise a kid. Harsh opinion I know, but I honestly believe it.

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Lostpoet · M

@MrPredicable How about finding a girl that isn't abusive? I'm not telling you what to do I'm just saying that in my point of you your reasoning doesn't sound very mature, but it's just an opinion, I'm sure you will probably be a good dad.

MrPredicable · 31-35, M

@Lostpoet Honestly, I tried several times. When I tried going out and dating with different women (even those who were really sweet), nothing clicked between us. Even after several weeks of dating the same person. Personally, this is one of the other reasons why I don't see myself being a husband. If I can't get romantically involved with a woman, even after many tries, I don't really see the point in continuing to pursue a goal that, more than likely, isn't meant to be for me. Right now, I'm more focused on my job, and trying to pay off my student loans (thus one of the previously mentioned financial reasons). From what I planned out through how I've worked out my paychecks, from the amounts I have left, I could get them paid off in a year or so. When that's done, I plan to save up as much money as I can for that day to come when I'm ready to become a father, and eventually adopt or go through a surrogate.

Lostpoet · M

@MrPredicable I hope things change and you do find that someone by the time you have to make the decision. Best of luck man.

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