I Need Help With Something Help Please

Has anyone been in a serious relationship with a partner that was raped or molested and hasn't even begun to heal? As in the first serious relationship after it happened? If so are there any good books you know of that can offer advice and guidance in what to do to help them begin to put themselves back together?

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SoFine · 46-50, F

They are better off to heal before heading into a long-term relationship.

In relationships - we get our insecurities buttons pushed, both sides.

Seek a professional that has results, else waste of time. Rather have one that has been recommended.

Help them with movement, such as yoga, walking, swimming. ...

If they placed them-self in the situation that caused the rape, then suggest that he/she forgive them-self. When we begin to forgive the situation, then to let go becomes free each day.

Do know when they relive the rape, the body does not know the difference, it will think that it is under attack again. Then this will stress them more.

Be a support, a soft place for comfort.

Best of luck. ..