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I Want to Improve My Social Life

So it's Thanksgiving here in Canada, and I'm home alone browsing SW posts. I have no family in the country other than my daughter, who is spending the day w/ her bf (and I'm totally fine with it... she used to spend Thanksgivings with her mom and step-family, although she often hated it, so this year she's in better company). Lately I've been struggling to find anything meaningful to do with my spare time, which until recently was almost non-existing.

I thought I should take the opportunity to "be more social", "go out", etc. I thought maybe I could go for a walk on the beach or something. But the truth is, a middle-aged man wandering around [i]alone[/i] is just seen as creepy. If someone is "alone", then there must be [i]something[/i] wrong with him. If someone has no friends then there must be [i]something[/i] wrong with him. Oh yeah, how come I have no friends anyway? Well, coming to a new country at 35, married to a jealous wife who insisted on spending every spare minute with me (and I cheerful obliged), then after four years she suddenly decided that she wanted to marry someone else instead... Then my ex being "too busy" to spend weekends and most evenings with my daughter (then a toddler) meant that I was almost "single parent" with zero time to socialize...

Fast forward 15 years and I look around and, yes, no friends, no social life. I'm a creepy old man who lives alone. In the past I would sometimes go out for hikes, walks on the beach, etc., but I realized that any middle-aged guy wandering alone is, like I said, [i]creepy[/i], so I rather stay home instead of needlessly freaking out people.

I don't see any way to "improve my social life". Any suggestions (other than committing suicide, which I have already duly considered)?
saintsong · 41-45, F
You have come to a false conclusion a man alone walking along the beach is not creepy having no friends is understandable when you devoted your life to being a single parent. Go out be more social I hope you make some good friends!
tashag · 22-25, F
go to a pub? yu live in canada...so surely there is pub (yu dont have to drink dunno ifn ye do tis nun my business) yu might meet some people. go to a hockey game local or pro...point tis yu get one life and frum wha i read ye let yer wife or ex wife dictate it now tha yer daughter is old enough to spend life wit who she chooses why shouldnt ye?
Mindful · 56-60, F
Men who hike alone is not creepy. There are plenty of Facebook meetups where you can join people with similar interests. I’d start there but it’s like dating... just have to find the right group for you. Start by searching groups that do what you like doing the most.

 
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