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I Hate Perverts

Today, some guy had been hearting a lot of my posts and even left a nice comment on one of my posts about my molestation. Then he messaged me saying hello and for the first time in a long time, I responded to a PM I got from a man and thanked him for hearting my posts. He starts chatting me up about some of my nature posts and just when we have a pleasant conversation going, he starts asking me about the details of my molestation. I was not surprised in the least bit and told him that this is why I don't respond to PMs from men anymore. He started acting like he didn't understand what I mean, that he just wanted to "figure out what happened." I told him, I'll bet he does and then he changes the subject; starts asking me about my age and hobbies and crap. I should've ended it right there but I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt and humored him until he started asking me what I look like. I asked why he wants to know and he blocks me. He knew he blew his cover, not that he had much to begin with. Serves me right for taking a risk with answering a PM from a guy here.
MellyMel22F
[i][c=#BF0080]I鈥檝e seen quite a few similar posts here recently. It鈥檚 really sad people look to take advantage this way. Be careful 馃槓 [/c][/i]
PerchingDoveF
@MellyMel22 I am, that's why I never answer PMs.
SW-User
Wow. And I thought I was cynical.

Rest assured, I won't attempt to PM you. Nor a number of other kind hearted folks responding to this thread. Not responding to a PM just based on the fact it is from a guy is pretty closed minded in my book. Do you think there are no female predators? If I saw all your molestation stories, I might have reached out to you. Previously. Not because I get off on victim's stories or experiences. Not at all. When I reach out it is because I think there might be something I can learn. Even at this advanced age. You see ... my wife is a victim of molestation. She was molested .. actually it went beyond that level ... at the age of 13. By a family member. She got pregnant. And had an abortion. And was made to sit and read the bible for hours daily. Like she was the one that did something wrong. The real reason I might reach out is to learn more about what my wife went through. And most likely still deals with from time to time. Even after over 30 years of marriage, I still try to find new understanding and support for her. No, don't fret, you won't have to choose to ignore my PM.
PerchingDoveF
@SW-User I'm sorry for what you wife had to go through but there's a lot of deflection in your response.
SW-User
Absolutely fucking sick. I'm sorry people are like this.
SW-User
and they have the nerve to play innocent too. idiots
SW-User
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I've learned to just put them on ignore as soon as something doesn't feel right. Don't worry about being rude. They aren't being honest, they don't care, and they have an agenda.

Sending you positive thoughts. 馃
PerchingDoveF
@SW-User Thank you. I have cussed out a few though.
SW-User
Pervs are everywhere 馃し馃徎
there are so many creeps here. why i dont try to get to know anyone. online is a circus. they hide themselves under anonymity so theres no repercussions to their actions. a lot of sexual men and women. a lot of cheating spouses. i dont answer PM or chat people up. i dont want to be friends with a lot of people here, i dont trust people that are online. most want more than just a friendship. its like a sex haven for most of these people. act and behave in ways that in real life they would be scrutinized for. i dont want their drama and baggage and garbage in my life.
It's sad that so many guys are idiots like that, molestation should not be a topic point for trying to talk to a lady
Pherick41-45, M
I weep for my sex sometimes. Sorry, you have to deal with that.
KandiGhostcat22-25, F
I don't get why people ask about details of something that's not only terrifying, but very personal and uncomfortable to talk about. You usually would think people wouldn't ask for such since it's a horrible experience to go through. Talking can be just as hard to do as it is.
76starships46-50, M
Sorry to hear that happened and that someone really wanted to just hear your story for his own fun.
Chrisredfeild46-50, M
Wow, thats brash of him. The most i do is thank for a heart but if im PM'd id respond. Wow, the awdasity
SagePoet61-69, M
not all guys are bad
PerchingDoveF
@SagePoet I know that but enough of them are here to where I can't trust any PMs from any guys I get.
SagePoet61-69, M
yeah, ok, whatever @SW-User
SagePoet61-69, M
don't have to give me reasons why you can't trust guys or answer PM's from them@PerchingDove
SoggedNapped31-35, M
I am so sorry and yes, I get the irony of my post. Just Ughs sorry
Bushmanoz56-60, M
It is like groundhog day, he will be back and most probably try again. Aren't there enough places where people can go for that? Sorry you went thru it.
Bushmanoz56-60, M
@PerchingDove They always come back, and they try again. they glean what info they can and have a fresh try. it may surprise you that it happens to some of us older blokes too. id love to say hey not everyone is like that, but it's just getting to the point where it's more the norm than the exception. You should need ID to join and then there could be real world consequences for these people. Wish you all the best
PerchingDoveF
@Bushmanoz Thanks.
Bushmanoz56-60, M
@PerchingDove I hearted some posts on here by the way, I don't mean anything by it, it just seems like the polite thing to do when you agree with what someone has said
Mrsbetweenfatandfit26-30, F
It鈥檚 so sad that anyone would use the nightmares of someone鈥檚 life to get off of. What a scary awful thought that those people exist often in our communities. I鈥檓 so sorry you had to deal with an insensitive jerk. People who have faced abuse know describing details about the events are unnecessary in understanding them as far as respect and empathy. 馃挄
PerchingDoveF
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Exactly! I can talk about the details of my molestation without any issue but not if the person I'm opening up to is just using it to get off.

 
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