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I Need Help Can Anyone Help Me Here

After 20 years of wasting my life I feel like I need to start growing up a little bit... and I have no idea how to go about starting my life. I have a job, I’m earning money, I’m really freaking dumb, dropped out of college, have to pay back loans, don’t have many skills... I feel like I’m going no where and I don’t know what to do. I’m tired of sitting around playing games and listening to music all the time, I’m just clueless on how to start things. I’ve always had an issue starting small and I get overwhelmed easily. I still live with my parents, I have no car, I don’t know how to do a lot of things. I feel like the most childish adult in the planet. I don’t know what to do.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

When one is in the kind of shape you're in right now, life seems like a huge tangled ball of yarn and doing anything about it feels overwhelming.

1. Decide to do something constructive about it.

2. Find a direction. Where do you want to go from here? Don't make your only goal financial independence. Start smaller. For instance, I want to get a car.

3. Figure out the necessary steps to complete your getting a car goal. Save money, and yes, you can. You may have to pass up Starbucks and movies but you can save. When you get a paycheck, start a savings account and deposit what you can manage. if you have automatic deposit for your pay, set up automatic transfer to a savings account. You won't even miss it.

4. Pretend it's a class project to find out what you're interested in and what you're good at. Ask friends and family what THEY think you're good at.

5. If your parents know how to do any of the things you can't currently do, ask them to teach you.

That ought to keep you busy for a while.

Throger · 26-30, M

@Mamapolo2016 I’ve had this job for only a month. I’ve set aside $1000 of the $1200 or so I’ve made to save for a car. I’m horrible with money but Starbucks and movies? I’m okay on that haha. It’s not just financial stability it’s stability and comfort in myself, finding my purpose in life and honestly just growing up. I’ve been an adult for 2 years and I’ve hardly acted like it. I have always been great at cooking and told I am great at teaching. I used to have a job and worked with the Boy Scouts at a camp and taught classes. Best job I’ve ever had

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Throger Do you want to pursue a career in the food industry? Research and find out what it takes to do that.

Sometimes this works. Talk to a few restaurant owners and ask if you could observe in the kitchen and wash dishes in exchange, part time a night or two a week. Quite often if you're in eyesight when a job comes open and you've proven yourself to be a worker, you'll get hired.

Throger · 26-30, M

@Mamapolo2016 at this point I will have to. The restaurants around here are mostly fast food and I don’t feel like that’s a good introduction to culinary though I’m probably wrong. I have no idea

Mamapolo2016 · F

Found this online:

Steps to Becoming a Chef
Find a job working in a restaurant kitchen. Knowing how the kitchen and restaurant works is vitally important to becoming a chef. ...
Get a high school diploma or GED. ...
Go to culinary school. ...
Obtain practical work experience. ...
Certification.@Throger

Throger · 26-30, M

@Mamapolo2016 well one step down haha. Paying back loans is a must first however