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I Need Help Can Anyone Help Me Here

After 20 years of wasting my life I feel like I need to start growing up a little bit... and I have no idea how to go about starting my life. I have a job, I’m earning money, I’m really freaking dumb, dropped out of college, have to pay back loans, don’t have many skills... I feel like I’m going no where and I don’t know what to do. I’m tired of sitting around playing games and listening to music all the time, I’m just clueless on how to start things. I’ve always had an issue starting small and I get overwhelmed easily. I still live with my parents, I have no car, I don’t know how to do a lot of things. I feel like the most childish adult in the planet. I don’t know what to do.

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RadiantRuby

🤗 Start taking driving lessons, take a short term career course but life is very expensive continue to live with your parents

RandomUniverse · M

Unless you want to get laid. Then you will have to if move out. You have a zero percent chance if you live with your folks. The downside to moving out is unpleasant responsibilities. Like utility bills.

Throger · 26-30, M

@RandomUniverse at the moment I’m making $1200 a month and rent around my area is $600 a month. Plus everything else I’d need to worry about. I think living with my parents until I’m 21 and start figuring some things out may be the best course of action

RandomUniverse · M

I see the problem. Education of some form, even a trade school, seems the only way the math will ultimately work out in your favor. Unless you are 7'6" tall and can put a ball into a hoop. Pick a direction and go for it, one step at a time.

Throger · 26-30, M

@RandomUniverse I am not unfortunately 😂 I would like to help my parents pay back loans before I even consider trade school or technical school which has been on my mind a lot. I tend to think about things out of my control and I don’t live in the now

RandomUniverse · M

Go to a career counselor. Seriously. They can help you sharpen your focus. Then, it's one foot in front of the other until you are where you want to be. Trust yourself, don't sabotage your success with imagined failure.

RandomUniverse · M

By the way, you are 21 years or younger. Very few of us glide smoothly through adulthood clear eyed and confident from start to finish.

Throger · 26-30, M

@RandomUniverse well that’s at least comfortable to hear but I’ll definitely have to look into career counseling because I am lost

RandomUniverse · M

Also, is it possible you suffer from depression? Because that can make everything look hopeless. There are online questionnaires to screen for it. If you are, step #1 is see a psychiatrist and address that condition.

Throger · 26-30, M

@RandomUniverse I do. I am diagnosed with bipolar depression and a severe anxiety disorder. It’s been difficult working past that. The medication I am prescribed makes me feel okay but I understand treatment is both medication and therapy and therapy... is difficult for me. But I may have to consider it again

RandomUniverse · M

Yeah, you have to get that shit back in its cage to have a fighting chance at moving forward. I don't know what the manic part is like, but the depressive part is like trying to march through quicksand. Getting that behind you puts you back to the starting line.