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I live at home with mom and dad in my late 20s

I'm broadcasting because most people who ask or bring up that fact think that I (and other adults who live at home) are mooches, living off their parents.

It is far from the truth in my case.
I've bought all the groceries for the household for years, to the tune of 200+ a month.

I buy toiletries/household items i.e toilet paper, paper towels, dish soap, bath soap, laundry detergent.$30+ a month

I pay the internet bill 70 bucks a month. I pay for tv (Netflix and Philo) 30 a month.

All in addition to my own bills, car payment, car insurance, gas, phone bill,personal items.

I know that a lot of folks at home pay rent to their parents for living at home. I don't, I go out and buy all of the above and that is my contribution.

Oh also, we got the house remodeled recently, new floors, cabinets, door etc.

I have thought about this alot. I used to feel bad about still being at home at 28, but the fact is, I help out a great deal.

My parents DO NOT give me money. Both can attest that they haven't had to help me financially since 18.

I think leaving the nest early is the reason a lot of people are poor now. They didn't save enough money and weren't prepared for high rent and cost of living.

Plenty of people in other countries live at home well into their 20s and adult lives.
It only seems to be certain people groups/cultures who say that a person MUST move out at 18.

People must not realize that a lot more can be done when people live together, build together and save.

I have also thought about the fact that some people who have negative things to say about my living situation could be jealous of:

1.The fact that I have good enough relationships with BOTH of my parents to still be living with them at 28

2. The fact that I get to save a ton of money by not having to spend it on rent

3. The fact that I have very little debt (owe 3200 on my car)

That's all, just a little rant
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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
well you aren’t a moocher. A moocher is someone who feels entitled to get free rent & other things without contributing anything. When someone says that a grown child is still living at home in a negative way it generally means that the individual they are talking about is freeloading. And I have known some to do that without even contributing any kind of help at home. If you and your family get along just fine then good for you.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@iamnikki I lived at home for about a year after high school. It was during a recession & hard to find a full-time job, few jobs posted in the newspaper & most had qualifications that I did not have. I had a job but they cut back my hours, I still bought groceries, I’d go to different stores & buy the sale items & buy quite a bit. I also mowed the yard, helped with laundry, cleaned house & helped in the garden, & helped with cooking meals. My sister had moved back home with her toddler & she wouldn’t pay for anything & wouldn’t help with chores either. I got married about a year later and My aunt & uncle came to visit one day & right after they came inside my aunt quipped “We didn’t realize how much you did till you moved out.” I think they wished they had tried harder to make her & my other sister divide up the chores evenly, they both did well to do 30 or 40 minutes worth of anything in an entire week, if that much.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@cherokeepatti so you grew up with your aunt and uncle?
That's another side to the story as well. Lot of people move in with boyfriends/girlfriends, and all of a sudden I'm weird because I didn't do that.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@iamnikki My father murdered my mother when I was 12
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@cherokeepatti 😧 oh my goodness! Im so sorry. That must have been so difficult