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What should I say to her or how to approach the conversation 😟

So few weeks ago I met a girl at the festival I went to randomly and we hit it off besides our very similar personalities I think she is a real darling. Anyway that day I didn't think much of it because we have been dancing and it was a long day but She had a really strong body odour and not in a nice way. Very strong!!! I have been catching up with her regularly doing girly stuff and actually that's how she always smells. She stayed at my place few times and after shower I will offer her my deodorant and she will use it without saying no or hesitation. So I bought her one without saying anything as a present but don't know if she uses it or not .Last week we met up with my other friends and I saw their reaction to the Smell, although none said anything in her presence later on my other friend mentioned it to me and asked me to tell her to use deodorant or something. I know this girl showers and she wears perfume but still the odour is very strong. So strong that everyone notice. I hate the reaction I see sometimes from strangers when we are out. Somehow though she is oblivious to it. Today I am having lunch with her and I really want to say something but in a nice way and not just tell her but make sure she does something about it
Have you ever been in this situation? If so how did you handle it and did it work out?
Can it be a medical issue and she hasn't told me or don't know about? Should I just keep quiet ? Or what should I say? I really don't think she knows otherwise she would do something about it?
She looks immaculate always and well groomed is just the smell...Pffffff
Any advice would be very much appreciated ☺️
I really want to be her friend
I don't have an answer for you BUT... I can relate an experience that may highlight some things...

Many years ago I went to a Parent/Teacher conference for my son. He was in one of those Behavioral/emotional special needs classes at the time. There were a battery of teachers for this class (like a 3 to one ratio of students to staff). All the teachers were sitting around the table and one of them brought up my son's "body odor" by stating that he needed to shower more often.

Knowing that he showered EVERY evening before bed I immediately questioned her statement and they agreed that his BO was strong in the afternoons. I asked them to describe the odor and they all agreed that it was unusual and described it as almost acrid and vinegary.

I told them that was a side effect of his medication WHEN he became dehydrated. (Adderall breath - you can actually google it). At that point they all agreed that it was always after recess when they noticed it. Logically that would be when his mouth would be dry and he would be dehydrated. The medicine is being expelled from his lungs as he breathes (much like Alcohol when you have been drinking heavily).

I shared that they needed to make sure he visited the water fountain if the detected this odor in the future.

Problem solved.... And they even mentioned at the next meeting that the water fountain visits had solved his "Body Odor" anomaly....
jomsim · 26-30, M
I work with a couple of people who don't wear deodorant. I find it very off-putting but they're both adults and I think they must know what they are doing by now so I just say nothing.

We all have things that are going to be off-putting to others. If other people don't like it, it's their choice to avoid us.
@jomsim I want to be her friend😔 but the smell is really strong , I am not talking the smell we can all get sometimes plus it pisses me off to see how others react to it 😞
jomsim · 26-30, M
@Awfullybrave I guess one way to be neutral about it would be to ask her how she feels about other people reacting to her naturalness. That kind of frames it positively, and also keeps any judgement from you out of it.
@jomsim Naturalness😁 yeah I love that thank you.this is why I made the post. I didn't even know that word ☺️
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Is she in antidepressants? Some of them make your body stinky. Does she eat a lot of sugar? That sugar makes your body create yeast. Does she take vitamins? Make sure she takes one with a high dose of magnesium because it helps you not be stinky. Is she eating foods that are stinky? Also too much coffee or alcohol can make you stinky.
@Fungirlmmm Noted. Thanks. I will ask her all these questions thank you 😊
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@Awfullybrave You're welcome. She may not be aware because she is used to it so be delicate. All the stinky veggies and then a large consumption of red meat also makes some folks stinky.
@Fungirlmmm I really don't think she is aware
If you have that similar personalities, I'd approach it the way you would like to be told. If you wouldn't, that's also an answer
@TopCat Yeah you may be right. Thank you for your really sound advice🤗
@Awfullybrave no probs happy to help 🤗
@TopCat Legend ☺️
SW-User
Maybe it’s on her clothes 🤔 not washing it ?
Stress sweat can be a problem also ..
Sometimes people lose there sense of smell and can’t smell?
SW-User
Find out what? 🤔@Awfullybrave
@SW-User Oh why the odour and how we can fix it if possible :)
SW-User
👍️. Get to the bottom of it or under it ,where ever it’s coming from .@Awfullybrave
Lilnonames · F
Broccoli, brussels sprouts, and the rest of the cruciferous vegetable family can be odor offenders on two fronts. First off, these veggies contain sulfur, a stinky compound that smells like rotten eggs. Eating them "may increase the availability of sulfur to skin bacteria, allowing them to make more sulfur-containing compounds," Kumar explains, meaning you may start producing that rotten smell
@Lilnonames 🤔🤔🤔hmmm Good to know thanks
Lilnonames · F
It could be the foods she eats as well
@Lilnonames oh ok

 
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