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Why do some people say it’s a bad idea to live with friends, especially best friends?

Everyone situation is different. My dad says that it’s a bad idea but if I want to do it going ahead and he can’t stop because I’m an adult. I guess I’ve been hesitant to like be roommates with her because I don’t want our friendship to be ruined. She’s probably gonna tell me that’s a lame excuse to not be roommates and she really wants me to live with her because I’m the only one that she trusts.

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Sunflower2021 · 31-35, F

First I want to say I live with my partner and never had friends as roommates. But the more your around them the more you'll see their habits, which may not be to your liking. Or you might find out how irresponsible they are like not paying rent on time and relying on you. Your dad is right it is a bad idea. I have watched court cases where it ruined friendships not only because of each other but the other person always bringing a boyfriend over and not getting along. It's always best to have your own space and live on your own.

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Sunflower2021 · 31-35, F

@ElizabethBabe1994 if it was me I wouldn't move to a place more expensive because everything else will be more. Groceries, gas, and other living expenses. Depending on what job you have you might be stuggling or just getting by.

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@Sunflower2021 that’s true. So I was trying to tell her but she keeps telling me as long as we find a low income place and don’t spend too much money.

Sunflower2021 · 31-35, F

@ElizabethBabe1994 Someone mentioned there is a long wait list for those so that won't be guaranteed. Honestly I think you will regret doing it. Not being with your friend but the cost.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

As long as you go in to this with your eyes open.

It’s easy to be friends when you don’t have the day to day annoyances of life to deal with.

I’m sure that’s what your Dad meant.

And it sounds like she’s relying on you. Why would she say that ?

Is she able to make her share of the bills ?
You don’t want to put up with that if you move in.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@ElizabethBabe1994 So you don’t know if you’ll be able to make the rent ?

You need to be able to do that before you even think about it really.

Otherwise where’s your independence ?

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@Picklebobble2 What do you mean where is my independence?

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@ElizabethBabe1994 If you don’t pay your way she can always hold it over you !

Make life difficult if she wanted to.

Much harder for her to do that if you have independent income

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

If she thinks that your the only one she trusts . It's a good thing . Your lucky there .
All of my friends and nearly everyone around me are messed up. They'd only wish they could trust someone .
I had to leave a friend and she was the only one I trusted . I had to leave her in case she gets hurt . I wouldnt put her in that danger . When I see her I'm gonna tell her why I didnt come back to her .
She was the 1st person that really liked me . She had a way of bringing up my self esteem . Very good with words .
So what I'm saying is that your lucky to be trusted but that can bring responsibility if she's deep

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@riseofthemachine that doesn’t make any sense that you left the friend that you trusted. My cousin say that I’m very lucky to have a friend actually actually trust me and I trust her and friendship like that are rare. Interest you I am very lucky. But still

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@ElizabethBabe1994 I had to first her own sake to leave her cause it involved a load of spiteful people and I be afraid that she'd get hurt .
I left her on the right time .
She stopped me from committing suicide cause I was savagely harassed by people for no reason what's so ever ,
So if she was seen in my company she'd get harassed also and I didnt want that .
She'd be happier this way .

Amberrose · 36-40, F

Because people's little nuances can wear on friendship if can't get away after time

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@Amberrose well I don’t know what they’re talking about. That will never going to happen to my best run and I.

NotJamieM · 46-50, M

I lived once with two friends and it was fine. Another time I lived with a girl I worked with and that was ok also.

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ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@NotJamieM yeah. Just don’t know what to do because people keep telling me to have a open mind and just get out of there and move to a new place

NotJamieM · 46-50, M

@ElizabethBabe1994 does she already have a place? Maybe tell her you'll try it for a month and just not move in a lot of stuff. I was always glad to have roommates because of all the extra money it gave me, but I never had a bad one thankfully.

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@NotJamieM no she doesn’t have a place yet she said as soon as she finds a job she’ll find a place and hopefully she’ll have one by next year.

NoGamesTolerated · F

Proceed with caution

SubstantialKick · 31-35, M

If you live with a roommate long enough, you will eventually become friends with them anyway so what is really the difference?

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@SubstantialKick yeah. I don’t understand why people are saying that? Both are saying don’t go by what people say and just do what I wanna do. Always have a open mind and stop burning peoples opinion stop me which is true. I cannot afford to move to New Jersey.

bijouxbroussard · F

Every situation [b]is[/b] different. But living with someone reveals who they truly are, warts and all. I love my best friend, but she’s a “neat freak” and I’m just a few piles of books short of a hoarder. We’ve been friends for 41 years [b]because[/b] we’ve never lived together.

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