Why do some people say it’s a bad idea to live with friends, especially best friends?

@Sunflower2021 are you serious?! Omg! I want that to happen to my best friend and I. Maybe that’s why I’m so hesitant about that because I don’t wanna lose my friendship with my best friend! I mean my best friend and I had disagreements but we’ve never had really big fights and we get along really well and we trust each other a lot. She said we both can split the rent. She will probably say is never going to happen to us.

@ElizabethBabe1994 Not saying it will happen to you but it can. If your worried you will lose her as a friend then don't do it. Or try to find a place that is a month to month lease or short term to see how it goes that way your not trapped in a year lease.

@Sunflower2021 I guess I can do that. Tell me I can visit in stay up there and see how things will work out it’ll be my decision if I want to live there or not. Afraid if I decide I don’t want to live there and it’s not for me she might get disappointed and heartbroken. I know we have other friends that she can trust but she says I’m the only one that she can really trust and she really wants me to come up there and live with her. I mean I love her too. That’s never going to happen to us and we get along too well for that to happen. Best friend says it’s not going to happen to us that’s what she’s probably gonna say.

@ElizabethBabe1994 If she says she trusts you the most then she knows you are responsible. What you can do is tell her straight up I can give it a trial. I'll stay there X amount of days and if I feel it's not for me then I'll have to pass on having a roommate. If you lie to her then she will be disappointed. Don't feel like you need to please her because you don't want to put yourself in a position where your unhappy. It's just an idea thrown out there.

@Sunflower2021 well lying to her will be the worst thing. Not gonna pretend and say that I’m gonna move to New Jersey and pretend to be happy just to please her class and she’ll be hurt and disappointed. I know she’ll cuss me out for lying to her. I mean I’ll stay in see how I like it. Best best friends are honest right?

@ElizabethBabe1994 I'm not saying to lie to her but if you did that wouldn't be good. You would think they are honest but sometimes they are the ones who stab you in the back. Did you ever ask her why she wants you to move there so bad? I find it suspicious.

@Sunflower2021 why do you think it’s suspicious?

@ElizabethBabe1994 does she always ask you everytime you talk? It just seems like there's a little to the story other than I really want you to live with me.

@Sunflower2021 not always but sometimes when we video chat she always does that. I know she moved away seven months ago but she says just because she moved away does not mean we can’t be roommates. We can still be roommates. But I heard living in New Jersey is expensive.

@ElizabethBabe1994 if it was me I wouldn't move to a place more expensive because everything else will be more. Groceries, gas, and other living expenses. Depending on what job you have you might be stuggling or just getting by.

@Sunflower2021 that’s true. So I was trying to tell her but she keeps telling me as long as we find a low income place and don’t spend too much money.

@ElizabethBabe1994 Someone mentioned there is a long wait list for those so that won't be guaranteed. Honestly I think you will regret doing it. Not being with your friend but the cost.