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My girlfriend always struggles to make female friends, women seem to make snide comments have you experienced this?

I've always found this to be quite odd, she's is absolutely gorgeous in my eyes but very shy.

She's kind and struggles with her confidence but pushes on anyways.

I always tell her she is probably the nicest person I've ever met.

As a consequence she doesn't always see when someone doesn't have her best interest at heart.

My only criticism is when she feels slighted she can be defensive and doesn't address the issue head on.
RubySoo · 56-60, F
Ive had this most of my life.
Other women tend go take an instant dislike to me. If they give me chance im very often told...'you're not like i thought youd be'.
I am initially shy and i guess a bit aloof...but people soon realise im actually a very warm person.
Men on the other hand seem to like me from the off... When i was younger i reckoned this went a long ways towards why their girlfriends never liked me...lol.
plungesponge · 41-45, M
It's probably because she is attractive.

I find it strange how much we continue to behave like sperm and eggs even as humans.

Guys can travel in packs, gangs, armies. We will fight to the death for glory but we believe in things like "May the best man win". We naturally jostle each other and rib each other, but there's some strange shared appreciation that we're all kind of on the same mission, even if we're in direct competition. And much like sperm, men are considered expendable.

Women have a lot more trouble running in packs. Much like eggs, there's really only meant to be one at a time. To attract men/sperm, they're not meant to do anything,
they can just sit pretty and the suitors will arrive. If two equally attractive ones are in the same space at the same time, one of them has got to go. And a war between women is ugggllllyyy, there's no rules, no "let's not hit below the belt", they just can't fucking stand a single thing about the other woman and want to destroy them.
plungesponge · 41-45, M
Men and women are playing very different games in nature's view. Men are more in a team environment, a woman has her family line and her only family (if she chooses to have kids), but it's much harder to be in a group.
RubySoo · 56-60, F
@plungesponge but not all of us. And its often those women that other women dislike!!!
plungesponge · 41-45, M
Yes, what I've described is just most, maybe even only 70%, of men and women. Nature likes mix up behaviours too in case there's a new evolutionary behavior that's advantageous. There are always exceptions
SW-User
Yes. We can be absolute bitches to each other. It's probably because she's pretty.
NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F
@SW-User probably and that she cant stand up for herself.
xixgun · M
For years and years. Women seem to stand in the corner, glaring at my wife and silently mouthing, "bitch".

MEN, however, get along famously with my wife, compliment the practicality of her wardrobe, enjoy her company because she doesn't ever do that "oh, I'm a girl, could YOU do that you big strong man you?" thing. My wife is level headed, logical, and practical. Maybe that's why women don't seem to like her. Men aren't infatuated with her sexually, they want to be her friend, because she isn't "prissy when it suits her".
perceptivei · 36-40, F
I'm simply not convinced. Men immediately want to say jealousy/insecuriy is the underlying cause, but I have a hard time believing that. Pretty girls have other pretty friends all the time. And, if the girl is just average, then there's nothing to be jealous about. It just doesn't always add up to me (the jealousy excuse), and I'm a woman who has trouble making friends with the same sex as well.
Davemcdave · 46-50, M
@perceptivei she's very independent. Highly capable. I personally can't see any faults which is why I will do my best to never let her go...

If I'm honest this has made her very cautious about approaching others.

Where we're trying for a baby she's not as energetic as she once was due to the hormones, but it's been a good thing for her as she's made assessments on friendships that were negative.

She broke friends with one person because she always made her feel inadequate. Her hair was never curled right, her make up was never enough, her outfit was always missing something. I mentioned not being a fan of the friends fairly early on as she always put my girlfriend down. She is asian and the guys used to go crazy for her, young beyond her years and always very dolled up, not for me really. But she played on that, I remember an evening out where she routinely asked my girlfriend to take her photograph, but would take any of her or us, the few she did she cut my head off, or it was blurry.

I would say jealous.

She had the looks but my girlfriend has the full package.
SW-User
I don't have many female friends either. Probably cuz all them bitches are back stabbers.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Insecurity is like that, taken personally it's hard to step back and apply logic
Ksmile14 · F
Girls can be just cruel to each other. I don't understand it either. :(
DragonSlayerr · 26-30, F
She just needs to omit an energy that she’s not to be messed with. But also that she’s carefree and kind. Usually it’s the insecure women that don’t make good friends. If she finds confident women they will make good friends.
NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F
Women are just like that.
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@NeuroticByNature Little girls are like that.
NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F
@perceptivei theres a world full of them.
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@NeuroticByNature It's silly.
perceptivei · 36-40, F
What kind of comments
Davemcdave · 46-50, M
@perceptivei well snide remarks about her only being able to afford x because of me. Which isn't true, I've made life easier as we share the load but she handled everything on her own before me.
She's frugal.
I've witnessed women question her about her makeup, they say she looks nice then quiz her on if she did it herself, then want a breakdown on products almost for proof.

I've witnessed women just outright not introduce her to their partners-her ex best friend she didn't want her to steal him.
Casheyane · F
@Davemcdave I think she should get a new circle of friends. Girls who need to bring other girsl down are not mature enough to be called women, no matter what the age. Just leave them. It shows they're insecure of their own relationship.

It's alright to ask about one's makeup but with genuie interest to know tips and as guide how to do better. Or maybe to give advice. But you can be a friend without needing to make someone feel bad about herself.
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@Casheyane I agree 100%.
Paintedfox · 36-40, F
When is her birthday?
Davemcdave · 46-50, M
@Paintedfox January
SW-User
I'll handle this

 
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